To stranger proof or not

I am not sure what stranger proofing is but usually I keep my child with in my vision. She is only 3 now, so, I make it a point to keep her that way. If she was behaving badly, I would be the first one to jump in and correct her. So far, I havent been in a situation where she behaved badly and someone else had to correct her.

But if she was being reprimanded unnecessarily, then I will not hesitate to step in. I am also teaching her that if strangers approach her, you have to come to mommy right away.

 

Lol.. Just said in other thread that I did stop a dad from uttering the f- word before his 1 yr old in a restaurant. That has been only time I ever tried to disipline... er well, the father!.

I would not be harsh to any tiny little ones..If needed would be gentle and let them know " oh sweety!.. wheres your mom?.. be careful darling, you might break the jar!"..

It goes the other way... I would not mind a soft heads up but if others fail to be gentle enuf with my kids, they will face me ..

 

@Sparkle, I don't have an exact answer for your question. Depends on what happened and what and how it was told by the stranger. If it was something that made sense and told in a normal tone, I would accept it as a new learning for her. If it was something told very harsh, some intervention might be required.

Bottom line - I wouldn't mind if things were told in the right manner.

 

My kid is well behaved too. If she does something inappropriately, I call her and quietly tell her in her ears.
There was one incident, when we were in a showroom looking for dresses. There was one single sofa in the showroom and a little far from me. My DD went running towards it and sat on it.
There was this old saleslady who reprimanded her for running. I was not aware since I was a little away from the Sofa . My DD came to me in tears and said... she yelled at me. I was taken aback. The saleswoman understood that DD complained to me and was trying to tell me...if she runs she may fall. I am a Grandmom.. i can say etc etc.. I was raging with anger. However I didn't want to set a wrong example in front of my daughter by yelling at her. So I politely told her.. You could have told me. I would have taken care that she doesn't run.
My DD was still uncontrollable and I left the showroom. I had to then convince her saying.. that the old woman was concerned, so she told you not to run. Don't worry.. Next time if someone says something..you tell them..My mommy is there. Can you please talk to her.!!
Unsolicited reprimands.. notdonesmiley

 

Like one of the posters said, it depends entirely on the situation. But having said thatt , Garfield dialogue comes to my mind - 'he is my dog (Odie), only I can abuse him!!!'
Not that I abuse my kids, would definitely have a go at the reprimander if they're doing it in a harsh manner. This includes my father sometimes - if he is in deep 'thought', my 2 yr old shouldn't play loudly!! I've told him off when he shushes her. He had the choice of moving to a different room.
But I've committed a most heinous crime if I discipline their grandchildren - my kids!!