Pregnant with 2nd child, having some concerns

tajmahal · Oct 12, 2010

Hi friends,
I am a mother of 22months old baby. Now I am pregnant of 5months.
One thing which is pricking me is
My son is very sweet and very naughty too and he is very possessive in nature. I cant carry any child other than him. Now my concern is how he is going to react once the lil one arrives?
whether he will love and like me as he is loving and liking me. or he will hate me??????
whether he will accept the new one?
How to prepare him for this situation?
Some of the mother would have faced like this situation.
Pls help.

Taj

deraj · Oct 12, 2010

Hi Tajmahal

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Take care of your health.

Generally kids behave lil peculier only. When I delivered my 2nd in and my elder one was 4+ years and one day she was telling that she doesnt need the bady at all. I made her understand that the younger one is also her blood.

But I doubt about the 22 months baby. Make your son understand that soon he will be getting a brother / sister and he is the big boy now and a bigger brother (bayyah) for the kids who is going to come etc. Tell him now onwards and make him like and expect the child with affection and enthusiasm.

Not to worry, he will understand. Good luck to you. Hope you are due in Feb 2011 due date club??

bsushma · Oct 13, 2010

Hi Taj,

Congratulations ! Its all 90% dependant on parents interaction with kids on this. Create positive mindset in kid, that he is getting one friend to play with him and who will be always at home . And tell him you both can play this and that etc etc. Daily make him to say Hi,Hello to the little one in stomach and make him feel.

Dont worry on this 2 much. Take care of health......

Cheers,
Sushma

Anvitha · Oct 13, 2010

first of all congratulations, and I heard one more suggestion like, let the elder one involves in the preparations of the coming baby.

even after the baby is born you can make him involve in his works. for example while buying dresses for the lil one. for buying toys etc. we can ask which one you would like to give it to your brother/sister? etc

saying hello every day is also very good in my opinion.

As my elder one is little big by the time the next one arrived , i cannot post more on this.

DNM · Nov 23, 2010

Hey,

Sorry for late arrival into this. I worry about this very thing and so I am hesitating to have a second one. I don't want my DS to feel left out and unloved. He is so sensitive. In fact, I feel guilty even thinking about having another. Anyone up for handling that?

tajmahal · Aug 21, 2011

Dear Friends,
Thankq for your valuable suggestion and sorry I have not responded immediately.

I delivered boy baby. Now my elder son loves his brother very much. He is happy that he got one friend.