Can u suggest??

Hi all,

I am a really sensitive person, who is easily hurted......I dont like a friend of my husband(for some reason).....But for him, his friend is precious.....He loves him a lot.......His friend is in a distant place...and whenever he says he is coming to chennai, my husband will be eagerly awaiting his arrival.....ok, back to the point....We are invited to a function in his friend's house.....I am ready to do anything for my husb...So obviously I will go and should go...atleast for my husband....As I told earlier, that I dont like him...to be frank, I hate him......I am finding ways to control myself...I have tried many but everything in vain...and I am struggling hard to control myself.......Can u suggest some ways that I can spend time in his friend's house with ease...ie with no mental torture??? I love my husband so much that I am trying to overcome this mental depression....please help...

hi,

It is said 'you can't chose your parents n siblings but u can surely chose yuor own friend'. So has your husband done. He has chosen someone as his friend, and you liking or not liking has not got anything to do with it. If you have a good friend and your husband doesnt like her, will u leave your friendship. No... So is the case with him.

Anyway, what is the reason of you hating his friend? has he passed some bad comment on you. Did he act badly with u? Or is it that your husband gives him more priority when he is around and not to you?

Now for your question. What you can do when u r visiting them. First and foremost stop acting like u hate him. Think that he is your husband's brother and treat as you would to him. It is good to make a friendship then to break it.

All the best.

Diana

The reason for my hating him is.....as u said......my husband gives the highest priority (to the maximum) to him when he is around......and I feel lonely,ignored...........for which I fight with him...But the thing here is my husb never minds what i do at this time.......he does as he likes...