help me to convince

Dear Preethi,
Thanks for your suggestions. As u can see, I'm very confused. You have made things clear for me. Yes, we are going to India. After throwing tantrums, my in-laws urged my husband to come, and so, he thinks we'd better go as per original plan.

Originally Posted by Drpreethis

If your husband does not want you to talk to his parents because he feels they might scold you.. then I feel it is very positive.. He knows he cant change his prents.. but he finds way to protect you !! Good guy.. You stay away from talking to them.. dont ask them abut their health and if they confront dont get annoyed.. instead ask them what happened. If they complain about your parents not asking them their well being.. do not bother..

I agree that my husband is protective. But this same guy sides his parents when they call him n complain that i dont talk to them; then, he comes running to me n blames me again. He doesnt have a still mind; he keeps oscillating. Also, my mil never complains abt my parents to me; she says these things only to DH, who in turn informs me that his parents r annoyed with their behavior. She never tells me directly, n so, everytime i have to prove to DH that my parents r right. I'm tired of this proving stuff, n so, i dont try to prove anymore (he doesnt agree with me either). I've already told my mil that if she finds anything wrong with me, she must tell me directly, instead of telling her son. But, she refused to do that n said that "dils take it wrong if their mil says something; a mil does the right thing only if she informs her son n not her dil directly abt such issues."

I definitely want to leave my parents in peace. Will follow ur advice. Thanks.
Sandhya