My husband doesnt like the way I dress.

Hi.
It's been like a year that I have got married. Till date, we (me and my husband) had arguments only regarding my dressing sense, my choice of dress, my make-up. This arguments have sometime turned into big fights too, where we dont talk to each other for couple of days. I dont know if I can say that I love wearing loose dresses which makes him irritated as he wants me to be fashionable by wearing good fitting dresses. He is 5'8 and I'm 5'1, where again I have to wear heels, which gives me bad pain in my legs, so I cannot enjoy for a long time with him when we are out. and if i wear 1 inch heels, then I look too short which i personally dont like. Girls, I really dont know what to do... I'm so confused . Can someone help me with suggestions, opinions as of How to shop, how to get ready in office? How to get dressed when we got out together? PLEASE HELP.

-Simi

Hi,
What I can suggest you is - Take your husband for shopping and buy a dress material. Also take him to the tailor while giving measurements for your dress. Get the dress and surprisingly wear it for him. I think, obvisouly you feel uncomfortable (I also tried some fitting dresses which caused pain at my heart and some other parts of the body). Then, tell him slowly while you are in that dress only as where you are feeling uncomfortable. Then, hope so that he understands. Also, tell him that as you are married, it will be good and respectful to wear loose dresses only.

Bye
chinnubaby

Simi,

I understand Ur problem very well but this kind of reason leading to fights is not good for a married life.Hence,do not worry and start getting used to trying out new things.Here,Am not saying go for a 6 inch heels.But start off, you can always change Ur look.

1) Go for a stylish hairstyle
2) Go for a not very tight dress,but a dress which will fit U well
3) Keep trying different things but in whatever U try,first U need to make up Ur mind to look good and different.Its in ur hands
4) Then start wearing 1 inch heels,walk for sometime,U will get used to,eventually and U will not feel the pain when U use it again n again.Here again,if pain continous to exist,Stop wearing heels else U can always continue and U may increase to 2 inch.But stop when U feel it is too much for U.Dont stress too much of Ur legs also...but for U to do all these,U need to start liking what U r into

Hence try and change Ur look slowly and steadily and one day U will see a makeover of urself :) Also Ur hubby is not wrong in his own sense,since every husband wants his wife to look beautiful :) and Yes,U change for him but under limits and make him understand too,that this is the max I can try to be different.

Am sure,once U start Ur makeover,U will not stop .Its just a matter of confidence within U which will come out as Comfort outside :)

hi simran,
don't worry!!!!be happy that your husband is expressing his views as to how he would like his wife to look!!!!i suppose your's is a arranged marriage so it's all about getting to know each other better and each other's taste!!!!!

for office you can wear salwars which are not too tight or loose but those which fit your figure perfectly i am sure you don't want to look baggy yourself by wearing too loose clothes!!!always shop for the correct size of clothes for your size not a size small or big!!!

for casual wear or when you go out you can wear skirt and tops long skirts are in fashion now and also jeans and cotton pants and capris teamed with t-shirts or kurta or a belted top will give you a nice casual look!!!!

regarding shoes always buy heels etc from a good shop since it won't cause too much pain for you!also its only until you get the hang of it once you become comfortable with heels it's a cake walk!!!!

try these ways and go shopping together and i am sure your husband will be suprised!!!!
after that you can always sort out which looks best on you after all what are fitting rooms for????
goodluck
regards
pavi

Hi Simran,

Nice to know that your husband is taking interest in you. Take it as a positive sign.

I would suggest go shopping with your husband and so you don't land up buying those dresses that he does not like. Body fitting and second skin dresses are two different things.

So if it is body fitting i am sure with the right fit they may not be uncomfortable to wear. If you choose kurtis and tees then they are a little loose and not body hugging.

If you are not comfortable with high heels try out platforms as they are elevated evenly so not a huge difference in height at the toes and at the heel. These are more comfortable too.