Feeling insecure though husband is too good.

Hi Ladies,

I had been going thru the different topics that r being discussed and wanted to share my very own personal feelings and doubts here.
I wanted to ask a very personal question to the Indus Ladies as I don't know if all the husbands r the same or not.
After having *** does every ones husband turns away as if nothing has happened ?
Before that he behaves as if I am miss world or something and does whatever pleases me.But once its done he is just the opposite.
He is not villian or something He is the best husband a girl could wish for.
But it just surprises me.
Can anyone please tell me
Megh.

Hi Megh,

I guess it is normal.I have heard it from so many people I know.So dont worry.
But, I would suggest that you talk about this to your husband in your own sweet way.No matter what we ladies here tell you, only his word and explanation will make you more secure.

All the best,
Yamuna.

Megh,
While this is common male behaviour it doesnt mean you should just accept it unless you feel it ok too (and from your post I'm guessing you dont). Its usual for men to want to sleep immediately after sex and for women to want to cuddle and talk for a while. So I would suggest that you talk to your DH and tell him what you expect (without accusing him or anything), and you feel bad when he just turns away and goes to sleep. This is a simple thing easily solved by communication. Dont feel bad to ask - your DH (like most of our DHs) is not a mind-reader and making your wishes known is the only way to solve this. GL!

Vanathi.

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for the quick response.

Actually he doesn't goes to sleep but starts browsing technical related or some videos which he thinks are for matured men.
Or else he reads some magazine.As if I am not there in that room.
I did discuss this with him but I don't like to ask him all the time.
Sometimes he talks and cuddles but most of the times he doesn't.
And one more question I really wanted to ask is When one crosses 30yrs. Do they feel insecure after 12 yrs. of marriage about husband getting attracted to other woman.
I believe in him and love him.
But sometimes mind just takes control on the evil side.
he looks at beautiful woman or if someone is showing off.( He says that in bed when I ask him. otherwise he never comments about any female and also he never talks about my friends or anyone whom we know )
But he is also not a kind of cheap guy who will go after them.
He is very decent and respects women.
I don't know how to put my feelings here as I am not able to but I deeply love him and I know that he loves me more than I do.
but something keeps bothering me.I never cross my limits like hurting him by suspecting or blaming.'Coz I cannot see him getting hurt.
But after crossing 30+ there are some changes in me which r bothering me.
How should I deal with my heart ?
In that state of mind I usually talk to myself and keep it aside after thoroughly thinking through and just say to myself that I am paying attention for silly and unnecessary things.
Is this normal ?
please share your experiences.

Thanks once again,
Megh.

Hi Meghan,

The feeling of insecurity is more on your side I guess. I think in your mind you are feeling that since you have crossed 30 you might become less attractive. That's completely untrue. You got to feel good about yourself. You can look attractive no matter what your age is. You are in the US. You would have seen how women look gorgeous even in their 50s.

If you feel down about the way you look, try to get a haircut. Try some different style which'll suit you. Try some new clothes like skirt. All these might make you feel good about yourself. Try a romantic dinner at home with your husband.

Since he loves you so much, there is no way he'll go for other women no matter what your age is.

Hope this helps.