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When I first heard this – really heard this I mean, was when I had been married a few weeks. I must have heard such statements before but never paid attention to them. Having had an arranged marriage, I was just getting to know my husband. Though we had written letters to each other during the engagement period, living with him was obviously very different.
One thing I had learned in a short while was that my hubby was not the type to worry about what anyboby would say about his actions – I mean, he really didn’t care if others saw his actions as wrong or silly or anything.
So the first time I heard it, during a get-together at his friends’ house, my reaction was a raised eyebrow – as in “hah, I believe you!!!” You know – very sarcastically!
And then I heard the same statement again and again and again - not just from him but from some of his friends too. To top it all I could see that all the men who said it did not seem in any way weak or shy or afraid!
Each time I heard it I felt more irritated until one day all these friends kept talking in this way as though in competition to see who could come up as being the most scared!
I felt like giving them a dose of their own medicine and called over from the women’s group sitting on the other side of the room and said -
“A MAN WHO WAS REALLY SCARED OF HIS WIFE WOULD BE TOO ASHAMED TO ADMIT IT IN PUBLIC
ONE WHO HAD THE GUTS ENOUGH TO SAY IT IN PUBLIC WAS NOT REALLY AFRAID BUT ONLY WANTED TO POKE AT HIS WIFE”
Since then I have never heard that statement again.
Now what could this possibly mean?
That the men learned their lesson about not poking at their wives in this way
They discovered that they were really afraid of their wives and never again had the guts to admit it in public!
NOW WHICH DO YOU THINK IT WAS???????