question on husband's behaviour

hi all
i have been a silent reader of this forum.........until i found some issue that are similar to what i am going through and so i thought i might get some help here
in some of the recent posts,i found some ladies posting about thier husbands posting thier profile in matrimonial sites......i have the same issue with my husband..we are married for 6 years though we had a rought time for few years..i just cant understand what fantasy do these men get by posting thier ads in matrimonial sites and when i confronted him,,,,he says its for fun.....but i want to make him stopdoing all these before things turns serious.........because i remember something of this sort happend to my friends distant cousin...where the husband eventually found a sutiable match through these matrimonial sites and left her off..just for a heft dowry......

any suggestions..

Dear Daffdil999

I am shocked reading your post. Sorry I don't have any answer though. But I am wondering how to keep track f what men do, if they are ding things like this. We can't know everything they do and we are in total dark. I am really sorry for you. Hope other ladies give you some suggestions

Why dont you post yourself too in the matrimonial site in a different name and target him ?? Never reveal you did it on purpose and say it was just for the kick of it , if at all he comes to know this ! If he is really devoted to you then he will feel the pinch too !! Else turn around and tell him his " fun " may cause problems to your relationship and it wouldnt be good if " you started to have " fun " too .. !!! " Dont show him you feel insecure.. instead find ways to make him learn the hard way !!

Originally Posted by daffdil999

hi all
i have been a silent reader of this forum.........until i found some issue that are similar to what i am going through and so i thought i might get some help here
in some of the recent posts,i found some ladies posting about thier husbands posting thier profile in matrimonial sites......i have the same issue with my husband..we are married for 6 years though we had a rought time for few years..i just cant understand what fantasy do these men get by posting thier ads in matrimonial sites and when i confronted him,,,,he says its for fun.....but i want to make him stopdoing all these before things turns serious.........because i remember something of this sort happend to my friends distant cousin...where the husband eventually found a sutiable match through these matrimonial sites and left her off..just for a heft dowry......



any suggestions..

Create a bogus id and send him an email as if u r responding to his matrimonial advt. When he responds ur mail HAVE YR DAY.
Regards
Uma

Hai friend,

First of all, cool down ur self and create an id in the same matrimonial site in which he has created his profile, and send a message from ur ID. If u get any reply from him, from that reply you can understand with what idea he has created his profile.

I sincerely pray that ur hubby should have done that only for fun and nothing else because no Indian woman can tolerate this.

With regards
Vani

Talk to him about it and tell him that you are not comfortable with him having "fun" this way.

Maybe he needs to know whether he seems attractive to other women. You know, just to see how many people respond to his profile -- to know how his profile might look to women who are looking out. Basically just to boost up his ego (wow, I got "x" number of responses! I AM GOOD!!!) Again, please note the word, Maybe. It might or might not be the case.

Have a heart out talk with him when he is in a good mood and tell him clearly that you dont like it. If he still continues to do the same, you can create an ID as other IL-its suggested and make him feel the pinch too!!

Hope you get to resolve your problem soon!!

Cheers,
Vidhya