Hi..please help

Hi,

I am a 30yr old married for one and half years. I am facing a serious trouble in my married life.
As we are working couple and had love marriage. But after the marriage my husband is not sexually satisfied with me. By nature he is very imaginative and creative and I am very practical kind of person. I never had any relation ship prior to my husband (not any bf) and I was not interested in any kind of porn stuff. As my husband is very fascinating about sex and always want sex and I don’t like it much. He wants sex in the morning and I feel sleepy that time. Due to this differences we have lots of fight and now my husband told me that he had enough I should not interfere in his private life(he will drink and can have it outside). I am not able to understand what should I do as I love him but agree that don’t match his sexual desire. What should I do .i can not go through this life long as we don’t have kids right now. But I have to think about our family like my mother and brother will not support the separation. I seriously want a happy life and want to improve but don’t know what to do. How can I change my sexual desire? I want to keep my husband happy and satisfied but failed every time. Some times I feel I should commit suicide as this seems the only solution of this problem.

Moderators, Is this the same person who was logged in and asking for advice as a newly engaged person, then a newly married and then a newly pregnant woman ... the post here is too explicit.

hi,

i didnt get you, means this was my first post and i was looking for solution , a help or advice . I have not posting my problems just for sake of joke or to increase the post numbers. i need to talk to somebody that's why i thought it is a nice idea to share a problem with some nice ladies. anyway thanks .

looks fake to me..

fake or not.. suicide is not the answer.. i hope you can find help with a good friend or family member.. good luck!

Suicide is not answer for any problem, be cool, care ur husband in other matters be friendly with n discuss ur problem. tell him how disgust to u, he can understand

But Suicide is stupidity

Dear All,

A few of you have reported that the original poster might be fake so we went and checked the IP addresses of this post with the other fake posts in the past. They do not match. Under the circumstances, as we have always done, let us give the benefit of doubt to this member and be sincere in our responses. More often than not, the legitimacy of the member will be confirmed in his/her subsequent posts. Incidentally, I have removed the explicit portions of this post.

iamsad: I can understand that some issues are extremely troubling in nature but please refrain from writing so explicitly in future over here. You can always convey what needs to be in other words.

Regards,
Aarushi

Thanks Aarushi for stepping in here. I totally missed this thread.

iamsad

I will give you benefit of doubt. Although I totally doubt any lady in distress would write her problem in explicit words. My advice to you would be, discuss your problem with your other married friends in person. Or your mother may be a good person to suggest some solution too. For this is something no one can answer just in words. it takes a whole of perspective change to go other mile of distance to get in your shoes.

Ria

Dear iamsad,

I have beard some of my friends express similar problems, though not so explicitly. The needs or urges vary from person to person, so if there is a huge gap, you and your husband should first talk about this and try to resolve among yourselves.

If you feel that this is not helping, then i suggest that BOTH of you should undergo counselling.