Which option is yours ?

BrightRachael · Oct 3, 2015

Hi friends,

Posted this question just to see which option among the below is more among IL women.

I have categorized married life into 5 categories.

1. Very happy married life.

Those who feel marriage has made their life heaven. They have met their soul mate. No fights or ego clashes.

2. Happy married life.

After marriage life is mostly filled with joy and happiness, with rare episodes of sadness and fights. Minor adjustments made.

3. Married life with lots of compromises and adjustments.

4. Bad marriage.

Emotional abuse, thoughts of separation does crops up occasionally.

5. Very bad married life.

Physical abuse, adultery.

Which option do you think describes your married life and why ?

I begin mine by choosing option 3.
I have compromised so much in my marriage.

docathome · Oct 3, 2015

I think I would rate mine as 2.. I think type 1 would be superhuman

Ragini25 · Oct 3, 2015

If I am permitted to ask a qn - is there a possibility for our happiness to increase or our suffering to decrease by knowing how many others do better or worse or same as us?

coolgal123 · Oct 3, 2015

I will say it's 2 nd 3....happy married life after lots of adjustments and compromises....

BrightRachael · Oct 3, 2015

Hi ragini,

No dear by knowing this our state of affairs won't change.

Just posted this question so that others including me will know how so many women cope up with many ups and downs. It will reflect to some extent how majority of marriages are.

It's an anonymous online forum. No one here knows anyone personally. So what is the harm to share our life.

BrightRachael · Oct 3, 2015

Thanks friends for pouring in ur state.

catwalk · Oct 4, 2015

between 2 and 3.

sing · Oct 4, 2015

We can't appreciate light without darkness, so does for happiness vs sadness.
I guess, option 2 is realistic, option 3 is cleverly sorted to be mid way between worst and so called utopian expectation. bie1