Help My husband has ran away

@rarejewel:


So sorry to hear your situation.


The first thing you should do is file a complaint at a local police station. Go along with your parents to a local police station and file a complaint. They will guide you in case you want a divorce or if you want to be supported by a women's organisation. They may not be able to help you in making your husband come back and live with you. But once you file a complaint, your husband has to come down to talk wherever he is asked to, even if he doesn't want to be with you.


If you have any evidence of abuse, carry that. A copy of marriage certificate, photo albums can be asked/used as proof of your marriage.
A husband cannot just run away. This is illegal. I assume he has cut you off financially also, since he has asked your father to pay the rent?! Are you living alone now? I saw your other post where you mentioned that you tried committing suicide. Do not make any hasty decisions and make sure there is some one to keep you company through this time.


Check this link for information about bangalore-based women support organizations:
Helplines and support for women: Navya D'Souza - Citizen Matters, Bangalore News

 

Op,
When my friend was in same situation we came to know that there is a particular case you can file on which they will have to produce your husband in court with in 24 hours. Please check on the legal implications of this before doing so.
you can also approach a woman's police station saying you couldn't reach your husband.

 

Dear OP,

There must have been some serious issues between the two of you to enable him just ran away upon your suicidal decision. Both are grave issues, that too at this very early stage of your marriage.

Until and unless you reveal what has happened between the two of you (at least to the Police, if not here), no one can guide or help you.

Whatever the issue may be, it was clearly wrong from your H to just ran away like this. But on the other hand, it seems he has already lodged a complaint against you for a reason. That could be counted as a valid reason for him to flee.

Since you felt suicidal and faced torture in this marriage, I feel it is better you guys give mutual consent to divorce.

I don't think Police or woman orgn can help you to patch up or live together. But they can indeed force your husband to face you before the court and come for a decision.

Since your parents are with you, better you plan your life ahead.

 

No. Don't send him flowers or cards. From what you said, he is not interested in staying in this relationship with you. Why chase someone who is on the run?
You can approach the crime against women cell if the local police station is not able to help you. He cannot be married and run away at the same time and also not talk about divorce. He should choose one.
Also find a lawyer to help with your case. I see no other options than approaching him legally. Even if he has an old complaint against you, everything will be pulled up and verified in the process. If you haven't done anything wrong, you need not fear for any consequences.
But all these may only help in you having a conversation with your husband and not make you and him live together.

Do not feel guilty for trying to commit suicide. Situations can bring the worst out of people. Forget the past and work on your future.

 

@rarejewel
Since he has already filed a police complaint better check with a lawyer on what you can do. For that you need to really clear on whether you really want to patch up with him.

 

I don't blame his family for being scared OP.If a woman dies within seven years of marriage...it becomes a police case and has to be investigated even if there is no complain.

If you don't want a divorce...then don't go to the police. Police involvement will make things worse.

If you really believe that he doesn't want divorce but his family is behind this(probably scared to death themselves)...then give it some time.
Let him stay away and think for sometime.Keep trying for mediation through relatives.Let them know that you did not mean to get them in trouble at all.
If this doesn't help....then check with women's welfare group for counseling.

You could write to him and ask him for clarifications.

 

But from her other posts it looks like there were some other issues from the beginning which triggered the suicide. Its not clear if the suicide was the trigger for his action. (To be clear: I agree on you POV, just sharing an opinion on the side here)