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  1. Rags30

    Rags30 New IL'ite

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    Hi friends,

    DH's friend made a pass at me, when we visited them. He is happily married, with baby. Next day, he came to my house, when DH was not there, on some pretext. I felt weird that why come when DH is not there? I just said hi bye. Nothing other than that. DH has traditional expectation - wife should do every thing for husband. We had some little fights. I have not told him about his friend. Should I tell him? Should I avoid?
     
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  2. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Should you tell husband -
    The pass - cannot comment without knowing more about the pass, but you don't necessarily have to share more details. It is just that what seems as a pass to one person, may be Ok for another.

    That guy's visit - a casual comment that 'it was odd of him to drop by' and leave it at that.
     
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    abla Gold IL'ite

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    Definitely tell your husband .
     
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    VanithaSudhir Platinum IL'ite

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    I don't have a good feeling either. Better to tell your husband
     
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    MalStrom IL Hall of Fame

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    Tell your husband first. The guy sounds weird, and you don't want him to start spreading stories.
     
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  6. Rags30

    Rags30 New IL'ite

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    He brushed up against me once, as if mistake, and then touched my hand, again as if mistake, while I was giving him the baby. Wife is good lady, pretty even, not close friend of mine. I did not want to create problem, but I avoided him completely after this. DH considers him best friend.
     
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    Looks like this chichora needs a tight slap.. its time to try it.
     
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    tarasharma Gold IL'ite

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    @Rags30

    I think you should tell your DH. More so when your DH considers him as a best friend.
     
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  9. Grihani

    Grihani Gold IL'ite

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    What is your equation with your husband? Will he understand if you tell what you felt?

    You should mention just so that you can keep a distance and your husband can keep an eye on him.
     
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    shari2003 Silver IL'ite

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    Just mention that you are not comfortable with having this particular guy around, and somehow he does not seem to behave right with you. You can also mention how he suddenly dropped in.. Leave it at that for now. Whenever you happen to see that guy again (it may not be avoidable when you have a circle of mutual friends) ignore/ avoid him in every way, avoid any interaction with him.
     
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