Hi friends, DH's friend made a pass at me, when we visited them. He is happily married, with baby. Next day, he came to my house, when DH was not there, on some pretext. I felt weird that why come when DH is not there? I just said hi bye. Nothing other than that. DH has traditional expectation - wife should do every thing for husband. We had some little fights. I have not told him about his friend. Should I tell him? Should I avoid?
Should you tell husband - The pass - cannot comment without knowing more about the pass, but you don't necessarily have to share more details. It is just that what seems as a pass to one person, may be Ok for another. That guy's visit - a casual comment that 'it was odd of him to drop by' and leave it at that.
He brushed up against me once, as if mistake, and then touched my hand, again as if mistake, while I was giving him the baby. Wife is good lady, pretty even, not close friend of mine. I did not want to create problem, but I avoided him completely after this. DH considers him best friend.
What is your equation with your husband? Will he understand if you tell what you felt? You should mention just so that you can keep a distance and your husband can keep an eye on him.
Just mention that you are not comfortable with having this particular guy around, and somehow he does not seem to behave right with you. You can also mention how he suddenly dropped in.. Leave it at that for now. Whenever you happen to see that guy again (it may not be avoidable when you have a circle of mutual friends) ignore/ avoid him in every way, avoid any interaction with him.