totally lost in a rough marriage...

hi ladies,
i have like tons of problems over my head and cant figure out what to do or how to react to what im being through. i would like to start by explaining my problems from the very beginning. please suggest me what is best for me.

i am a 24 year old. i am the only daughter to my parents. my dad works in ISRO as a scientist. and ours is a pretty upper middle class sort of family.i got married 2 years ago. ie on feb 2013 i got married to this guy who is a govt employee. it was an arranged marriage. we r from very different backgrounds. he is brought up in towns/villages and i was in Bangalore all my life.BUT his dad had constant transfers and he has traveled quite a lot.

everything was fine till marriage. on the first night of our marriage he abused me verbally. i was shocked but taught that may be its casual slang.then my mom-in-law started complaining about the marriage. she said that the flowers were not sprinkled properly on them and we did not book enough taxis and all.i didnot bother much. then i went to kolkata on 8th march 2013 and my husband says why did ur parents send u so fast? couldn't they wait for a few more days? i didn't understand what was going on. infact i taught he would be waiting for me in kolkata.

gradually he started abusing me verbally pretty often. and we had a very bad intimacy between us. he dosent like talking much to me, dosent like clicking pics wid me etc etc. he said it is because of he being brought up in town.even sex was like once a week to once or twice a month. then he says if u want a maid, u pay for it, u pay for ur exams etc etc i am a home maker so i used to take money from my dad and pay. gradually it increased to this extent that he expects me to pay for internet, maid, my laundry(iron) and any personal expenditure.

my parents have given us everything in my house tv, hometheatre, fridge, bed, kitchen utensils, vehicle curtains, bedsheets , door mats LITERALLY everything.
i dont want to take more from my parents. my mom-in-law says i have come empty handed and taunts for the way i dress, the way i eat, the way i cook everything. and he also scolds me in foul language in front of his parents. they say he scolds but he dosent know the meaning. My dad was in the hospital due to wrong drugs prescribed to him and he was in a very serious condition still my husband didn't bother to go and see him. i was tired and fed up so i told everyone left home and went to my moms. he or his family dint stop me or dint bother to call me. even my sister in law and inlaws were in kolkata at that time.

i was there for 8 months in hyderabad and bangalore. he used to not call or anything. after meetings of both parties for a couple of times i decided to give a second chance inspite of my family telling me to take divorce.

now i came back to kolkata in october. since then he says dont come out of the house in nighty, i dont want other men to see you, he checks my phone, my facebook, why is he texting you why are you talking to the neighbours(women) still abuses and recently he abused my mom also and even lifted his hand on me.
o dont know what to do even now from the past one month my dad is in vellore CMC hospital. i totally dont know what to do.
please help me.

 

Thank you people for responding this fast. i cant tell u howmuch better im feeling now. I'm planning to go back to Bangalore. Yesterday H came home drunk and when I asked him why he said its his house and his wish about how he comes and goes. He is behaving as tough I don't exist in his world doesn't respond to anything or dosent talk. I even tried to tell him that anyways I will go away as soon as I get tickets . till then at least be normal but he dosent respond. I'm feeling emotionally weak. What do I do?