Query {Intimacy Related }

pretzel · Feb 28, 2015

My DD is 5+ yrs . We stay in a 1BHK now . Even if we move to a 2BHK , I cannot make my kid sleep in a separate room .

Safe Period + Kid in School + Our Mood = Very difficult to meet this to be intimate .
How this can be handled ? Is my question clear ?

CrayoNess · Feb 28, 2015

Kid to bed at 8-9 pm, when she sleeps you have the living room all for your self

And get some contraception so that you do not have to care about "safe" days.

pretzel · Feb 28, 2015

CrayoNess , Last I put my kid to sleep by 8 PM . And did . DH was so tensed , What if the kid wakes up .

I have read before , even if the kids are in good deep , its not good to be intimate in the same room . you said living room , should try this .

rosepetals · Feb 28, 2015

Dear pretzel,

I can relate to your question very well as I have firsthand experience with such a situation. My BIL used to stay with us for the first 2 years after marriage. The first year, it wasn't even a 1 BHK. It was a small studio apartment with just a curtain separating our bed from the sofa-cum-bed he (BIL) used to sleep in. Now it is difficult to even imagine how we managed during those days, but we did somehow. First year of marriage, after all.
The living room idea by @CrayoNess is great. You can try and create a romantic environment in the living room either with dim lighting or candles (even better if they are scented). If you have a comfortable couch, put it to good use Or else, get a comfortable foldable mattress for such occasions.

abla · Feb 28, 2015

JFYI Safe period has high failure rate .

Ragini25 · Feb 28, 2015

rosepetals said: ↑

with just a curtain separating our bed from the sofa-cum-bed he (BIL) used to sleep in
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Just a curtain separating from where BIL is sleeping, wow! Hard for me to imagine - how this was "managed"? oh well, lol.
Its just a 'voicing out the surprise aloud' question - pls. dont answer my qn! (thanks!).

Vanilasky · Feb 28, 2015

Dont make the kid sleep for long hours after school. So she will easily go to bed by 8 pm and you can have your own time. If there is a foldable sofa cum bed in living room it will be easy .

Iam wondering how you people managed with " safe period" method for this long. Try some other better contraceptive methods.

pear · Feb 28, 2015

Lock the bedroom from outside to be on safer side.

yellowmango · Feb 28, 2015

Why can't you make your daughter sleep in the other room.Five years is old enough.You need to work on why you would rather skip intimacy for having your old enough daughter in the same room.

If people want to get back to normal couple life...they work harder to get the children more independent.

If bedroom is daughter's space....the rest of the house is available for you both.Just lock the bedroom from outside.

vidhyabaskar · Feb 28, 2015

yellowmango said: ↑

..the rest of the house is available for you both.Just lock the bedroom from outside.
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When the kids are grown up, to the age of 10 etc, then the kid waking up in the midst of sleep and knocking the door locked from outside, then asking, "why did you lock from outside?". How do you handle the situation ? Then comes the real embarrasment.