Continuation ... My previous thread..Snooping my Husband

Hi ladies..

As you all must have read my previous thread ... How i snooped my husband n all..

Now I am facing a new problem on the same thing. Recently we took a club membership for holiday packages..Every year they have 10 days package for around the world n india. So in some conversation with hubby.. I told him that as we can go for some vacations from our country for some days, he said ok.. we will.

Then he started telling there will be some days pending.. as we cannot go for full 10 days .. so he will go with his friends to goa.. he wish to go to casinos n all with friends..

I got so angry .. I told him u choose between friends or wife..As i told u all before.. His friends are all of bad characters, leaving there wife n having affairs, drinks a lot, etc. So I am not at all comforatble to send my DH with them. I didnt talk to him for 1 full day..then he said..he was just thinking of it now he wil not go as i dont want him to go. He promised.

But I am really worried as; last time also he promised me the same and informed me in the last moment before 2 days and left for thailand with these friends. When he came back.. n when i questioned him for many times and cried..as he lost much money there.. he told me that he went to see there Russian strip dancers many times ..just to see them dance, etc. Then put money on their underwear. (Just side of Panty).. That is the way they take money.

I was very upset hearing all this.. DH says they didnt indulge in anything wrong.. But I am damp sure if not DH, but sure his friends must have had one night stands, but DH he dont know all these because they stayed in diff. rooms,

so this time i am really worried if he goes again with his friends.. Pleas guide me to take a serious step.. on how to stop him.

 

Thank you for your reply ragini25
Yes I know he is not a kid.. I am just saying is it justified to let him go with such friends..Because if i had such kind of friends n wish to go with them for holidays .he would never allow me to go..so the same i am doing with them.. Yes i have least trust on him .. due to what he did before.. But I love him a lot..n he loves me too

Am I Wrong?

 

Dear coolwinds,

DH is not a regular gambler or hooking in FB, he rarely opens FB n updates anything..he is not internet savvy...But i am scared that he will get influenced by his friends..We have another set of good friends also ..n i have no problem if he goes with them.. But the problem is good friends dont go alone they always go with families.. n this bad friends goes alone because they want to have fun...which i dont understand...

Here one conclusion i took is ...His bad friends are having all uneducated wifes who dont know anything except cooking n cleaning..so they may be ashamed of their wifes to take them out ..to such places.

In contrast i am very free..even if he want to see strip dance i have no problem if iam there with him..I like to go discos..like to drink also occasionally..so why cant he enjoy with me the same way he enjoys with friends..

Yes ! he cannot flirt or make bad comments with me on other womens.. may be his friends do that when they are together... God knows

 

Other thing is work on the quality and quantity of your sex life. I am not saying it must be lacking in some way and that is making him go to such places. I am suggesting that after kids sex life can take a backseat, and no harm in trying to improve it.[/QUOTE]

About this I would say that .. I am more interested in sex matters than him.. actually before married itself as ours was love marriage.. we indulged in sex few times..on those days we used to make it 3 to 4 time one session, but as soon as we got married from the first night he is only doing 1 time - which makes me unsatisfied..I had talked with him regarding this... Also he is very ritual and all..
For him it is ok ..if we make out only once in a week or 2.. but for me I need it almost every alternate day..but he refuses..

So sex is not an issue ... I think men mentality is not like women... We are happy with one guy..but men always want something new.. As my DH is little scared to alone to these places n enjoy..he need his friends for support..For that reason he wish to go with these bad friends always n never select friends who are good n would take there wife's along with them.

 

Thanks .. Yellow mango..

Yes I am economicallly independent..but cant imagine a world without him..I have courage to leave him...But at times when i think about my son who is only 2.5 yrs i feel sad.

Apart than these things which happends once in a year..he is a real good husband an father in all means.. So, even if i plan to leave him, if i get some proof or so..which i pray actually not to get..neither my family or his family will support me.. As my parents are modern n will say ..these things happen in family life n u should forgive..

I just keep on crying for days thinking this .. I love him like hell.. May be because of this i am doing such things.. He is good looking n young... I was also good looking n still are.. but after baby ..became little heavy with bulging tummy n all.. I think these things are making me feel inferior to him.. n make me think all negative things.