politics in family

If there is any one fair minded and neutral persona in family you can ask for intervene.
If not then let it be.
What difference it makes if they don't share roof with you?

 

Hi OP,

You just maintain your silence. You have to face each other in future, in functions etc.
and hope truth will come out. Somebody might be telling lies behind your back, find out, (may be MIL, want to divide and rule)

 

OP,

Be careful not to say anything to your MIL about yourself, or co-sis that can be twisted. Even positive things can be twisted and presented in a completely different light.

I feel this situation is too serious to be avoided silently. Staying silent will embolden your MIL to spread even greater lies, and tarnish your reputation in whole family.

Keep trying to contact your BIL/co-sis. If they are not reachable over phone, just leave an email/sms - Apologize for hurting them unintentionally. Say you never said any thing about co-sis to any one. If you did say something hurtful, without your knowledge, then you regret it very much. Say you are hurt by their avoidance of you and DH. Assure them you will take care not to say any thing hurtful about them in the future. Just ask them if they will talk to you to allow you a chance to apologize, and mend relations.

If they agree to talk, then apologize profusely. I know you are innocent. But apologizing to them will make them more receptive to what you have to say regarding your innocence. Say you never meant to hurt them. Then ask them if they are willing to tell you what it was that offended them. Do it in your husband's presence, over speakerphone. Preferable to discuss things in person, though if they agree to meet you.

As it seems MIL is the culprit here, you can do this. Next time you go to any function together, say with every one present (DH, MIL, BIL, co-sis) that - "MIL, You don't allow me call BIL/co-sis. Now see BIL/co-sis think I am badmouthing co-sis. Have I ever said any thing bad about co-sis to you? I think all this misunderstanding would not have occurred if we talk over phone some times, of course, only if you allow me." Act innocent and hurt when you say this.

That way it will be clear to every one you are innocent, seem like you are trying to respect your MIL (by asking her permission to call), and also mend relations with co-sis.
Then watch MIL squirm. gigglingsmiley

Stay happy and let us know what happens!!!

 

Call or write to Bil's wife and tell them , you have not spoken anything about her to anyone so you are extremely upset that she seems to think otherwise . Mention that are interested in clarifying things and ask her to let you what she heard and from whom .

 

Just make sure your communication with your DH is clear and that he understands you properly. Other than that, just stay silent and behave normally (hi-bye, smile) with them. What they think, say do not matter.