So, is the guy good or bad?!

Hi Girls!.. i suggested IL to one of my cousin, she loves the site and checks for advice but wont create an account coz she dosnt have a pc of her own. So I post on her behalf.

I am calling her 'sugar'.. she is married for 10 wonderful years. The guy is caring loving and outgoing. He is like this with evryone. Now, the problem started when she first found out that he has put all his money on fils name and not a penny on his ( her fil does not own anything by himself, inturn got some debts, son cleared everything and made properties ever since all on his name again). Posted here, got wonderful responses.

Now, the second problem this year, bil (sugars hubby) went to US for a bussiness trip. She said they were whatsapping frequently. She mentioned that he said some thing about meeting his 10th friends and mentioned some guys she knew. She was fine. And the one day while messaging him he said he is just on the door step of an old friend and SHE is married and got kids. Now sugar feels bad why ge did not tell her when he was making plans on meeting her, why only at the nick of the time?. She just left it there, when bil came home after a week or so, she noticed him chatting with her, the message from her said " my H is not yet back so its hectic".. Sugar was mad now as he continues chatting with her after being back??? without her notice!!. And she suspects that her husband was not around when she met bil. She actually called me in panic that I was furious. Then she put her phone down, i didnt hear for nect 2 days.

Sugar calls me and says that it was the same woman whom bil said" there was one beautiful girl in our school whom everyone used to fantasize"... at the first year after het marriage ..she was crying . She said she screamed and called her biitch and all.. her husband got furious and said that she was overreacting and thinking vulgar and she must die... this hurt me a lot, when she said this, i was hurt because its so sad some one asking you to die. She said she put so much love care and effort (bil has diabeteis already so spl meals and persuing him to excerdise etc) and that he asked her to die just because she called that woman bad names. She is devastated, being a house wife, no property , husband catting with that woman, asking her to just die.

I said one thing... its NOT her mistake and she deserves to live than anyone else in the scene. In rage i asked her to message that womens husband on fb about she cahtting with men, but then i said no.

Please ladies, respond and advice, I am gonna send the screen shots to her. Your responses might not change her H but we both atleast wpnt feel lonely on this issue. I didnt say all this to my DH coz my bil and DH are friends and he will support the guy and I thiught it wasnt nevessary yet.

 

But bil gives her everything she needs, encourages her to be strong and all buys her own car... the only time he said no was to tranfering any property on his name and now calling her names and asking her to die.

Its all on this year.. bad year for them!

 

YM ... always first to help. I cant answer your questions but as I said she will know what you all say.

 

Also YM with 9 yrs of happy marriage , people become possessive. Its a big blow caused by emotional dependance on a single person ..

 

Thanks Q , i reaaaly hope thats what it is!... she isnt taking with him, also he has taken it off. They must talk once it cools down. Dosnt seem like my cousin is gonna get cool any time soon hearing her but this time its his turn