Hi ladies, today while i was going for work, i met this lady in my society who was also goin to work. I have taken this new route to wrk so i am meeting new ppl everyday in that route, this lady lives in my apt. She approached me, n we just said hi helllo n other pleasentaries . She said she had been living in this city for 8 years. She looked like a simpleton. She was ver sweet and motherly kind. She spoke very broken english, i mean just manageable. She had a south indian accent so i figured she must be from there. She seemed very kind and sweet kind of a woman. I saw she wasnt very equipped with technology and all, as when we exchanged number, even though she had a phn in her hand , she took out a pen and paper to write dwn the number. She looked very tired, it was early morning, she looked stressed, tired n i think i saw black bruises on her hand. Even though she was smiling and talking she seemed very sad. Her hands and feet did not look well taken care of. She told me she was going to her work place, like part time wrk in some store in a mall. So then i had to like really go the other way as i was getting late so i said my byes and told her i wud meet up with her later sometime. But after looking at her state i started feeling very bad, like maybe i dont know , there is some problem she is facing. I told my husband abt it later in the day, my husband told me to not get influenced and not excahnge numbers like this with anyone. I told him she looked harmless and nice. I was feeling very sad abt her n cudnt concentrate the entire day!! But my husband says i need to mind my own business, not that he was rude abt it but i felt that he dsnt want me to find out if anything is wrong in her setup. Now i dont know what to do, i feel i shud go and check her out in her home and see if there is some problem going and i can help. It seems she is on h4 visa (dependant visa), and cnt work full time also i dont think she was very educated. I dont knw but i am just getting a bad feeling abt this. I cant ask her to my place cz my husband wud then get angry. N i dont know if i shud go n meet her at her place or not! What wud u have done!!
IMO, You should wait.. You have met her only once and don't know anything abt her except she was looking tired, sad (that too its ur perception) .. if you meet her again, get to know her more and then decide whether she needs help or not.. Even I wouldn't exchange number with someone whom I met only once .. that too a casual meet.. I would n't go by Face..
Dear weasly, Exchanging nos with strangers is not advisable. You dont know anything about her,so wait till she opens up .Then decide if you could help her.Too many assumptions not necessary. Your DH perception is right. Dont do any thing without consulting him.
It depends. Well, I would also advice anyone not to exchange nos with strangers no matter how great they look like. But since you have shared your number with her, and I hope you have her no as well. So, why dont you call her and casually develop some friendship to know how things are with her. Let her know that you are kind and open for helps. Let her open up if she really in need of help. Perhaps this woman doesn't need a help at all, but living her life as the way she lived back in India without any changes. I've seen many educated and wealthy woman in India and other similar countries with not-so-good looking nails, hands and legs. They simply don't understand the concept of manicure and pedicure. I've also seen women over the age of 40 looks like as if they were the grandmas. They don't take care of their bodies once their kids are grown. It happens. It depends on their priorities. Perhaps this woman had a bad day at home. Who knows. Just call and check with her as if everything goes fine in her life. Just for your sanity.
Dear Weasly, If I was in your place, I wudnt have rushed into exchanging phone numbers at the first meeting itself.. Anyways, go slow on further interactions, try to know her better and then decide whether she is genuinely in need of some help or you had just been assuming things at face value. Cheers, Meera
Thank u ladies for answering! I agree i shudnt hv given my number to her but she just asked fir it n i was in a hurry n i just gave it. I wudnt hv thot more abt it but i saw black bruises on her hand thts the only thing that worried me! Ill be careful n chk again fir any such signs the next time i meet her on my way to wrk!! Thnx again ladies!
I would have surely exchanged numbers especially if I noticed bruises. Weasly you got company. friendssmiley. Keep an eye for bruises if you meet her again.
Exactly!!! Weasly, I am so sure my hubby too in such a situation would 've reacted the same way as your hubby. Now that you've exchanged numbers I think the best thing to do would be to call her up,may be she might open up.
As she was a stranger ,may be you could have just taken her number and said i will text u mine on it , to buy u more time to think whether it is safe to do so or not. Never feel pressured thanks to being in hurry etc. as ur own safety is paramount too i feel. but going on ur description, this lady seems to be genuine. And good on u for caring as many people prefer to look the other way .As she is lives in ur society can u gather some more info on her through others that u know in ur society.once you gather more info u can make a better decision. Until than dont go to her house alone but keep in touch via texting if u wish and get to know her more. And remember all this are just ur assumptions still, she could be just a simpleton but very independent as appearances can be deceiving. Also can u describe the bruises? All the best and kudos for caring.friendssmiley
Agree with most posters here.Meet her a few times. May be she is over worked.May be she like a lot of Indian women just doesn't care about appearance.As for bruises...that is a red flag...but I also bruise easily. I get bruises all the time from little bumps against objects or even rough housing with daughters(when they were small)I am pretty careless in the kitchen and during ironing and often have a burn mark on my arms. Once the Principal of the school I was teaching in called me aside to ask if all was well at the home front. When I asked her why the sudden interest...he pointed to a bruise mark and a little burn mark on the forearm. If you use the same route...you might bump into her again...casually talk and ask about her family.