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Friends problem with cheating husband

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by pickles, Aug 27, 2014.

  1. pickles

    pickles Bronze IL'ite

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    My friend would like some advice. She is not much into using computers and allowed me to post on her behalf to get some advice.

    She has been married for 3 years (arranged). No kids yet. Things were normal other than usual small fights. she lives in same city as her parents, and goes to her parents place 2-3 times a week to help out in business.

    Then she saw his mobile chat with his college friend. She lives abroad now and has 2 kids.
    From last 3 months they are chatting. Its romantic chat. She was shocked. She confronted him. He said sorry. But continued chatting. She found out again , again confronted him. They had heated arguments. This time he dint apologize. He got angry and told her that he will continue chatting with that girl. And now he changed the passcode of his mobile so she cant even open his phone.
    She is very upset and now at parents place for the day.

    What should she do since he is now not even apologising, not feeling sorry.
    Should she confront the other woman and/or her husband ? She is ready to talk but the husband is in no mood to talk and rather bringing up all bad things about her in their fights.
    She even said to him she will help him forget the other woman, things happen we make mistakes, but he did not say anything.

    please advice.. thanks,
     
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  2. parvathi1980

    parvathi1980 Platinum IL'ite

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    No point talking to the other lady who despite having kids is getting involved like this. She has much more to lose. She can talk to her husband and find out what is going on and since when. Once she has the details she can take action accordingly.
     
  3. pickles

    pickles Bronze IL'ite

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    Well the other lady has much more to lose. Thats why shoudnt she confront the lady and tell her to stop ?? This may work?
     
  4. Shina

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    Looks like her husband has no respect for her. This is serious as he wants to cheat blatantly. She needs to involve elders i believe - her parents and his. Also get them to let this other ladies' husband know as to what is going on. Has she collected any proof? She should have done so before confronting. If not, She can meet up with some technical expert as some info may still be retrieved and they may know how to do so. Its just unacceptable and as she has no children she is in a position whereby she can issue an ultimatum to such a loser.
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    A blatant unrepentant cheater and a liar. Is he worth it??He has no love or respect for her.
     
  6. pickles

    pickles Bronze IL'ite

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    She messaged the woman and told her to stop chatting and the woman said they were just friends and now they dont chat anymore.Then her husband now called her up and said you come home .. He was very angry. Now ofcourse this woman must have told her hisband about her confrontation.. Shes afriad to go home now :( he is such a loser first doing this and now blasting her
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Well...either way she will see the true face of the creep....will help her decide what she can and cannot take.
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Is she working .....other than the family thingy?
     
  9. pickles

    pickles Bronze IL'ite

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    No shes not working . Her family
    has a well running business in which she helps.
    She has told all to parents now . Parents will do the talking.
    Hoping that he comes to his senses..
     
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    If he is that angry maybe she should stay with her parents for a bit longer, not advisable to go back when emotions are running so high i feel.
     

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