Based on recent threads, want to start a discussion on snooping. When should one snoop on a partner? The basis is if the relationship is good, no red other flags, should one need to snoop? There maybe some infatuation, some emotional bonding going on but if it is not impacting the relationship, is it worth to snoop and create problems? However, if there are other doubts, one should snoop to find more details. What do ILs think?
Snooping is not good. Ever. Atleast that is my opinion. Or maybe I'm saying that because neither my husband nor I ever look into each others phones / e-mails / txts etc. We have not given each other the need to even want to snoop. If he sees a # on the phone bill that is not a regular one, he may ask me about it. But that's all. Main reason is that most of our friends are common. We also give each other the freedom to talk to anybody we please. I do not question him nor he me even if we know the conversation is with somebody of the opposite sex.
I am all for not snooping and maintaining personal space! Me n my dh have no issue if we tok to ppl from opposite sex or having a friendly relation with ppl frm our past n being open abt it!! Touchwood!! however what abt some of the cases we hv seen here! Where was wife thot the relationship was strong and very good n then suddenly finds husband talking with girls online??! N flirting with them n saying its not serious n many ppl do it! Wht happens jn this case, husband thinks its normal while wife is shocked n cnt trust again??!
This is the way u snoop faintingsmiley [video=youtube;f0EhFcd1qGs]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0EhFcd1qGs[/video]
Wow!!!! Ragini that was hilarious. Maybe once in a while we should snoop to know if everything is as it is advettised.
Yeah Weasly that's the point. Is it better to keep eyes closed if nothing else is going bad or need to be vigilant and proactive?
I would Never snoop. If the lines of communications are clear there is no need of snooping. If they are not , no amount of snooping is going to improve things. Remember, trust once lost is difficult to regain. Would you like it if your spouse snoops on you?