Totally depressed

Pavani32 · Jul 30, 2014

Hi ladies

I am really depressez with my husband behaviour

We r married 3 yeara back(no kids)

Marriage ayaka almost weekly once edusthunu

natho epdu edi nijam chepadu easy ga abadam chepesthadu enni sarlu thana munde edcha epdu nuv naku nijam chepatld nannu mosam cheyaku pls ani

prathi sari sorry pandu inka epdu ala cheyanu antadu

kani withing 2 days lo malli easy ga abadam chepesthunadu

nenu ila enni years ilane tattukovali

thanu inka naku nijalu chepadu ani artham ayindi..

idaram working ayina thanaki 2lakhs appulu ayayi nenu daniki emi anale kani evari evariki entha ayindho cheppu terchedam ananu

list chepadu

2lakhs tho terchesam

malli thana mobile chusthe inka frnd money epdu isthav ra ani msgs vubtunay

apdu adithe idi chpatam marchipoya pandu aji antunadu

ila chala sarlu edcha kani malli malli abadale cchepthunadu

nenu asala tatukolekapothuna chanipovali anipisthundi endku antte nenu epdu oka abhadam kuda nenu chepale kani roju thana nannu mosam cheyatanike try chesthunadu

evariki epdu na badha chepale kani na opika poindi nenu inkaey badha barinchalekpothunanu

Anduke metho share cheskunanu nenu emana tappu alochistthunana
Nannu em cheyamantaru

Rise · Jul 30, 2014

i could help you out if only you wrote in english .. cant understand anything

1Sandhya · Jul 30, 2014

Make enquiries, talk to his friends directly. Find out what he is spending the money on. I feel he may be having some bad habit, does he gamble or drink? maybe he wants to hide that from you. Crying will not get you anywhere. Be strong, and try to find out the reason for his behavior first.

Pavani32 · Jul 30, 2014

Yes he told that he lost all money in cricket betting

Pavani32 · Jul 30, 2014

When i am asking him or checking his mobile he iz getting angry..

Pavani32 · Jul 30, 2014

And he is saying he stop cricket betting now..but still why is he
lieing to me even i told him i will help him i clearing those debts

bathalatha · Jul 30, 2014

Hey,
Don't think about suicide...Sorry for your situation..but your parents are more important
to you than your husband ..Think about them when you get suicidal thoughts...

Coming to your problem,If he is really serious about your marriage..you take the financial responsibilities and ask him to stay away..See if his parents can help you

kanthtx · Jul 30, 2014

u have been married to an addict.. realize that.. some people get addicted to alcohol.. ur husband is addicted to gambling and lying .. no matter what u do he will not change...

u need to take control of all money matters... u will become the sole account holder for all ur accounts..
tell all his friends that who ever lends money to him will not be paid back any more...

tell them he is addicted to gambling and they should not lend him any money...

bring this up to his parents and make sure they can influence him to stop this bad behavior...

if all else fails.. divorce him and move on.. or just accept that he will not change and live with him happily (miserably)...

Pavani32 · Jul 30, 2014

When i ask him abt this issues evrytime he is sayinv the same thing that he will not lie to me but again the same situation repeats and he is saying that he is lieing bcoz he doesnt want me stressed out any this..but i am not getting stressed abt debts abt i am just stressed abt his lies.

Pavani32 · Jul 30, 2014

And also he doesnt have any financial planning from 4years he working for the same company and almost same sal..when i asked him for company change he never tried n every hez saying that i will change
now my brother tried h1b visas for both of us..it got selected for me now..he z is saying that lets to us and hez is saying that hE will try for h1b next year and he wants me to work ther until he gets thr visa

i am very much afriad that he might start gambling ther

do i really need to do job ther when he doest got the visa