Should education be compatible?

I feel it's not required. Yeah at times when both the partners are of the same field they understand their work and related things. My husband holds Phd in Engineering where as I have done my masters in public relations, well this has never caused any problem in our lives. I have taken a break from my job since I have a small child and my husband has been extremely supportive in this. Marriage is an emotional and social bond, which cannot be measured on basis of compatibility on education.

 

The compatibility reqd is a good hearted decent person should hopefully marry into a good hearted decent person/family.
iit or mba is irrelevant in the case u described

 

Greedy creeps will be greedy creeps ...no matter what their education.An IIT+MBA ...with a serious handicap of self respect impairment is a useless good for nothing. He cannot even claim to be educated......nor can the parents.

the girl should have walked out the day the first demand was made.Period.
As for the other harassment.......there is no reason to follow every order that is being given. She should have let the guests go hungry....they were not her guests.People who called the crowd should manage them. Shouldn't have cooked at odd hrs...just let them go hungry.They don't want to keep servants...let them do there own work. It's high time dils stop acting like helpless slaves and put their education to good use.

 

Hi Akanksha1982,

Bit tricky question to give a promising answer.

Ideally, as Ragini25 suggested above, a marriage is successful if a good hearted decent person with mature thoughts marry into a good hearted decent family.

In the above case, education compatibility is not the issue. The issue is the cheap thinking of the boy's family who took perhaps too much proud in their child's education, somewhere ruining his life. Surprisingly, the boy himself didn't stood up against his parents on demanding for dowry. What was indeed the use of all the education when it could not change the manner your brain functions, when it could not change the thinking. Ultimately, he is also in loss to have a divorce and may be a dowry case filed against him. Instead, he could have continued with his low salary job for a while and change it after sometime to a higher earning one, if he so much wanted rest.

But, there's another angle to your question.
Education compatibility is preferred by many due to other reasons.

It is deemed that an equally compatible person ( in education and qualification ) can understand his/her partner best. What I mean to say is, a doctor can only understand a doctor partner well, a teacher can only understand a teacher partner well and an IT Software engineer can only understand his/her partner belonging to the same field.

It is considered, if a doctor is married to a teacher ( who works from 8-5 ), the teacher will find difficulties in understanding the odd working hours of his/her doctor partner. Similarly, a person who's not working in an IT industry find it hard to understand how the industry works, how the MNCs screw its employees, etc.


So, yeah somewhere a compatibility in education can be considered in arrange marriages. Moreover, like the above case, an IIT-IIM person would always want a special treatment, would be dominating, etc..leading to unnecessary issues. So, good is to marry him to someone who's equally educated to him, so the "dominating husband/wife" factor gets eliminated.

But, of course, important is how good is your thinking, how open minded one is, how clear are you in your thoughts, your principles, your ideologies, etc.

 

How are they not equal in their education- both have masters. Yeah I know the guy is from IIT & IIM blah blah but apparently after that that he seems a dead weight with career prospects that is nothing to write home about. Unless someone really gets to the top of their field or does something exceptional, a IIT degree is a undergraduate degree and IIM a masters.

Frankly there is no correlation between exceptional educational achievement and success in career. Many IIT's or IIM's just go on to be mid level managers and nothing more. Often times those that work hard and get good grades (does not have to be a top school or 4.0 GPA) but a well rounded personality go on to be overachievers.

Obviously with all those qualifications between him and his parents, they have not learned basic human dignity. So in every way he and his parents are inferior human being hence not compatible or worthy of this woman in question.

 

Everybody on this forum, please open your eyes to this. Engineering from IIT and BA/ BCOM are both graduations and equal. Masters (MBA) from IIM and MSC/MCOM from any institute are both the same and masters.

 

It depends on individuals and their acceptance levels, if they have a problem with the gal's qualification in the first meet itself, they shouldn't have proceeded to the marriage, why spoil the life of a gal with such foolish acts