Roommate husband

Hi all,

I have been married for almost a decade but my husband and I live like roommates. Is there any hope for a real relationship after all this time ? No sex.

Or is it too late?
thanks

 

Married for almost 10 yrs. we have 2 kids. There was intimacy when we were trying for kids. But I conceived soon in a week of trying itself. And then nothing.

 

No tension. He is very supportive. Helps in cooking and with kids. No complaints about him. In fact he is a model guy. Except there is no passion between us. I have mentioned it to him a few times. But no avail. I have also dragged him for counseling.

 

Counseling is done because as I mentioned we are not intimate at all. As in no sex. Before counseling he used to be like a robot roommate. No hugs no kisses. Not even an I love you. But he used to do his chores very well. Like a roommate. But never cares abut my feelings and doesn't even talk in the house much. Just go to office and come back. Wash dishes if it is his turn. And then office work or call. Then sleep.

 

He says there is no problem. No one else. He just "forgot" to have sex for 2-3 years in a row.he is almost 40 now.

 

I have been reading a lot of similar threads by other women in this forum. And I know there is no real solution for this. You can wake a sleeping person but not someone who is pretending to be sleeping, right ? Hubby knows his issues and just avoid them, or just gives me a blank stare. I finally shouted at him after a year yesterday. He looked upset, and said he will change but that is the same thing he has been saying every year when I bring up intimacy issues. So I know it will not work, and it is only a temporary act on his part. Have any women actually found a solution to this issue ? Live with it or divorce seems to be only two options.