should i continue with marriage?? confused

yes i am doint that. Thanks for reply. I do not know, how other men are, my H does not take responsibility and simply excepts me to do everything for him, the worst thing is that he does not allow me to do outside things of my own or get the help of my parents. whether he is brought up like that or his nature is such!!!

 

to cutiepie

i asked this question myself many times "why these men marry if they do not care of the family"

 

First of all I am not interested in sterilization as I was scared to do operations, which I never did before; I did this only for him.

My father also said the same that if he is physically abusive next time, he will report to police and this time I agreed to him. I thought that taking the family matter to third party is not good. I live in chennai.

Whenever I feel angry after the fight, I feel like I could live alone without this guy, but when I cool down and think about my kids and other things I had to deal alone I am feeling helpless. My parents are always supportive, but I do not want to give them more and more burden, already I have a widow sister with 2 grownup girls in my parents house and I do not want to become another burden for them. Truly I am little worried to be a single parent. To say is easy to live alone, but I know it is difficult in practical as I have to depend on others for little things and when I take things in my hand also I have to find good people around to help.

My H says always that I am giving him more responsibilities like to fix problems in house and other things that a father is expected to do for his kids. He says that he cant do all these things and want to concentrate on his job and that is why he wants his parents to be with him. I do not know what to say for this, wont other men do the job and family responsibilities at the same time.?? If I ask him to keep a maid, he also disagrees for this. He does not help me either nor he would allow me to do alone the outside work or with the help of my parents, he puts halts for everything. But he is good when there is no influence of his mother; when I say this to my father, he asks me my H is not an adult? Cant he think of his own?, I do not have answer for this. My H is so stubborn and wants to do only what he wishes, he does not give any independence to me.

 

My family was not against it, my father does not like this alliance that is it, he agreed to my wish, it is arrange marriage only. Ours was a big family, there was some problem involved with my siblings which i dont want to disclose here and somehow situations made to marry this guy. what is happened is happened, i have to see what to do next, that is it for now.