Taking care of baby and household work

HI, I
have a one yr old baby boy now.. since his infancy I was lucky enough to share his caring responsibilty between my mother and mother in law. As, my parents and in laws home were very near.

Now my in laws have planned to shift the home and have also found a place nearly 20km far from the present place. I am a working woman and I dont get to stay for long with my kid. It will be my MIL who will take care of him as well do the household works.

At present during my weeknds when I stay at home, I see how my MIL looks after my son. .... she doesnt even bother to give my son left over rice, a months old biscuit and fryumms and of all maida items which I have strictly told them not to feed..

One day it happened so that I found out my MIL had given Noodles to my son and has thrown that paper in the dustbin. when I reached back from work, I noticed stains on my son t shirt near his chest. I sarcastically asked my MIL as to what she feeded him, she told she gave biscuits. I ignored the matter, the next day morning I found a maggi packet in the dustbin and I arrogantly asked them about that. thay finally told that they were hungry and so got it, made and had......!!!!! thinkingsmiley I know very well about my MIL. even if she is very hungry she will never of spending a penny for outside food. okay... the scene just continued and she asked if I checked through the " ****ted diaper of my son also in the bin":evil:... my anger reached to the peak and I asked if it is the same way she would question to her daughter when she too asks so... she dint have a word to reply me back and just started yelling on me using all abuses...and I left the room ignoring her.:spin

I hope this one incidence would let you know how my MIL is!!!

I nearly need more than an hour to feed my baby. if at some point he tries not to accept the food, my MIL immediately asks me to stop feeding and leave him off with not even half filled stomach............ I do really get pissed off sometime.
During my absence she still feeds my sons with all old items.

I have a strong feeling that my son will not be safe with them..

what can I do to make my in laws to stay in near by place itself to my present place...?

 

mithu,

thansk for your prompt response on this.

to tell frankly I never wanted to see anybody else in my position but unfortunately...

yes its the same exact case what you are telling.. what did you do then... you kept quite for what all your MIL to your daughter and adjusting or quit your job?

for me its very very difficult to take it easy..... I had mannath to get my son becasue I was not able to conceive from two years adn everybody started speaking on my back.. when I got my son I felt I am above the world on high...btt

let me know what decision you took later... I will try to throw some light on it..

 

vsharma,

I totally accept right from what your telling. I dont have the liberty of discarding anything in my home which I feel is not necessary. I MIL keeps a watch on me always if by chance after back from my I try to take some snacks to eat also she stops telling me to keep it for my husband as he will come tired from office...

I have got them varieties of fruits and rice items every week always explaining them what to give each day to my son... she would hear but never implement it telling "he only dint like", " he doesnt eat", "he s very stubborn"... and all sorts.

regarind feeding , when I feed my son I always know how much quantity he takes.. I agree he eats very slowly but once his stomach is full he never takes the next mouth... I have seen so many times just after feeding two mouths if he doesnt open his mouth my MIL tells to stop feeding him... b coz of all these things my son fell ill almost 4 time in a month and he went underweight too, along with throat infection--- doctor told that he might eaten any hard stuff and it would been difficult to sallow for him... nearly one week my son was only taking porraige after that until he was fine again...

If I keep jotting down evrything... it will be an ever ending list.:spin

 

yes , I will give a thought about it....thankyou all for your prompt responses...

 

I really tell you Mithu, you are just one of the kind I am seeing... I feel your baring everything silently whatever is happening to you and your daughter....hug to youhugsmiley


I am very curious to know how you are managing everything .... can you tell in much detailed way how your doing your daily choir of work...

I normally get up by 5 a.m and rest back by 11 at night then too I am not able to fix my time table...

let me know mithu...