India trip coming up - drama begins

We are going to India on Thursday for a 3 week vacation. The drama begins! How foolish I was to believe his words and book tickets for all of us to go together!

Since about 2-3 days he is acting moody. I have no clue what's bothering him. Also, every small thing seems to be my fault. My 5yr old is waking up at 6am these days, I don't know why. It's still my fault that she isn't getting enough sleep. She has 4-5 party wear dresses. She grew out of other party wear stuff she has so I planned to buy some more in post Xmas sales or in India. It's my fault and I'm stingy that she doesnt have more party wear clothes at this instance (school going child in a uniform! )..,my husband wore a very old nasty dirty t-shirt today and started to subtly accuse me of stopping him from buying clothes. I dont stop him! he doesnt go to the shops and buy. i have to buy for him....I generally encourage him to buy more when a sale is on or when we go to india. He doesn't buy. He still has a wardrobe full of casual shirts and good tshirts. I don't know where he found that old tshirt!

There is a friction between us about something I don't understand. He suddenly started to tell me that I've put on a bit of weight...I'm about 6-7kgs over weight....I don't obviously have a flat tummy or toned butt...he started to comment on it now...

He suddenly becomes over generous....he now wants to buy generous gifts to long lost cousins he didn't bother to be in touch with....some kind of excessive guilt/whatever that he tends to overspend....mil asked for a cordless phone, he chose a model. The same one was for $30 less at a different store. He still bought from the expensive store saying cheaper store (walmart) might sell bad quality....wtf ?

We agreed on a certain amount for his sisters wedding present. He suddenly wants to double it!

We bought a house here, I put $150k cash into it, fully from my savings. The house is in both our names. Does that not mean I gave him 75k? He has a small part of his savings in a under performing mutual fund in India. Earlier we decided to move it to a fd so that it earns some interest. Its about usd 25k. He said we will put it in a joint account so that I can manage it. It's a 180degree turn now. He wants it in his name...


whats going on...and what should I do.

Btw, SILs wedding is a different story. We don't even know if its happening in December. No one told us (me) anything.

 

We booked tickets long before SILs "match fixing"
They've been looking for matches for a long time now. A few months ago when we were budgeting for the new house, I wanted to make sure we kept her gift money aside first before sweeping our accounts for the big purchase. That's when we agreed on an amount.

He will attend the wedding (when ever that is) and tell ppl I have visa problems. That's the agreement now.

He is now behaving as if I am beneath him - not upto his standard... My mils attitude....his dormant cells are all waking up now..

Any doctors on this forum? Is ths split personality disorder? I remember seeing that nasty movie back in 90s - Junoon? Where rahul Roy slowly turns into a tiger? It's haunting me now

 

My answers inline....

 

Latest update: until a few weeks ago, he was telling me how desperate he is to visit Europe during Easter holidays. I was telling him that we need to start to think about it since Easter is school holiday period.,,so need to plan in advance,,,

he said - hmm let's see....depending on circumstances then...lol...

We both love to travel and we did dream about a Europe vacation for a long time now.... It's suddenly seeming less exciting to him...

I am strangely not pissed off or angry....It's not affecting me much...

i plan to start a big boss thread about my india trip. People, It will be 100 times more entertaining than bb7 ....

Did I become a nut? Why am I so excited about all the drama coming up? Don't I realize the bakra will be ME!!!