am I lazy?

With toddler, what you are feeling is quite normal. Is it possible to send your toddler to day-care for half-day or at least for few hours? You can find reliable and inexpensive home day cares.

Ask your husband to give bath to the kid in the evening. In the morning, ask him to do one feed for the child. You can use this time to cook, take bath or even go to the nearest gym and work out.

From my experience, running releases more happy hormones than walking does. So try it out if it works for you.

 

Everyone has given great advice - you may be mildly depressed, and exercise and fresh air will help.

In addition to running away FROM your toddler (we all need this - my husband came home unexpectedly early from work today and announced he was taking our preschooler on a father-daughter outing. I was like Tom Cruise in Risky Business Risky Business Dance Scene - YouTube) you should consider running away occasionally WITH your toddler. Kids need a break from the routine, too, and fresh air, and exercise.

Make sure your daily routine with baby includes going out for walks, to the playground, or whatever is available in your area. A couple of times a week, make quick and easy meals (don't spend too much time cooking, feeding him, or cleaning up - try toast, cereal, etc.) and get out of the house with him. Or, better yet, pack a picnic lunch and let him make an almighty (biodegradable) mess on the grass at the park, and then just walk away. No cleaning necessary.

Staying cooped up at home will drive anyone crazy. Other things you can consider to lighten the tone of the day is playdates (invite another mum over with her baby, or meet them at the park), put on music and dance with your toddler, let your toddler play outside with water (paintbrushes + water on the outside walls of your house), or do arts and crafts. Whatever you like to do can probably be adapted to include your toddler, too.

It sounds like the daily grind is getting you down. Don't get too hung up on cooking, cleaning, and robotically going through the motions of keeping a perfect house. Take a careful look at your processes/work and pare everything down to the bare minimum. Whatever is cumbersome, inconvenient, or just not necessary to the absolute wellbeing of you and your family can be eliminated. You can always go back to being WonderWoman when your child is older. Right now, it's more important for your son for his mother to be smiling, happy, and not perpetually exhausted. I feel your pain.

 

As they say, terrible twos suck up all the energy. I think you should go for morning walk/jog even for 1/2 an hour. That will freshen you up.

Is it possible to cook lunch for the next day in the evening when your husband can help with the kid? If so, then you can sleep with your kid between the breakfast and lunch time frame. If not, try to squeeze in short naps (10-15 mins). These really helps.

Also consult a doctor to see if your vitamin B-12 levels are normal or not. if not, you can try to take B-100 tablets. This will give you energy as well.

Please remove the thoughts that you are lazy.

 

Why do you feel guilty? Just like you, he is also a parent. Your husband seems like quite reasonable - grandparents do not have the responsibility of the grandchildren but the parents do. Do you hesitate to take his help even if he offers? You can leave your child with your ILs once in a while to refresh your self.

But how do you feel good about yourself every day?It is also not a good idea to wait for your husband or ILs so that your feel good time starts. There has to be an activity that you look forward to doing every day. What could it be? You know what makes you tick. Pursue it.

 

Hi.. I have been through a phase where I felt struck and couldn't just get things done...I was desperate in what next , the purpose of my life etc..all these thoughts kept looping in my mind and made me sick.. not doing anything productive
slight variant of your case..

I think a bit more of socializing and time management could clear your fuzziness
Even the smallest move can bring a great change; you need to kill the boredom all by yourself..develop more trust on your capabilities and start by discovering who you are, what you want in life..

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Last yr I was feeling like this after few days I came to know I am pregnant :rotfl