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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Vij99, May 29, 2013.

  1. Vij99

    Vij99 Senior IL'ite

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    Hi all,

    Did you face this kind of a situation where everything that could possibly go wrong went wrng all in 1 day?!

    There is a fight going on between hus and I, my kid is sick, my co-workers are teasing me coz I volunteered to take up a task at office!, my friends complained for something, with everything I feel like crying.
    I just want to go home, sit and cry.

    How do you keep up with such stressful days.
     
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  2. CHINCHILLA

    CHINCHILLA Gold IL'ite

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    By watching comedy movies, youtube comedy clips or listening to music. But my preference is watching movies.. [​IMG]
     
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    olivellam Silver IL'ite

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    by coming to IL and venting out :). Relax, look at the positive side, you have a job, husband albeit fighting, a kid who will get well soon and friends.. Tackle one thing at a time, IGNORE the teasing, it's not going to get them or you anywhere. Focus on the sick kid right now, husbands could be handled later.

    If possible, try to take a walk for 10 minutes, will clear your mind.
     
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    Anitap IL Hall of Fame

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    Undisturbed sleep / nap will do the trick.
     
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    sirikad Senior IL'ite

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    Don't take unnecessary things to Heart.. be happy..
     
  6. Vij99

    Vij99 Senior IL'ite

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    Hmm sounds good.
    I already lost lot of hair with this stress.
     
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    GoogleGlass IL Hall of Fame

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    It is stress only if you see it as stress and you try to get rid of it using you intelligence - it never works and that is additional stress.

    At such times I see myself a fool who doesn't know anything - who can't differentiate pain & pleasure.

    Wow it works well - when I accept I am a fool - that's bliss - I enjoy that moment & then it is fun - a hand grenade is hurled at me - I just push it aside & walk like the Super Star Rajini.

    Now that I have to a certain extent conditioned my mind - I don't get stressed - but I long for stress because I enjoy calling myself a fool & walking like the Super Star. :)
     
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    veronica123 Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Vij99,

    I have been to this situation many times.Infact,add up 2 kids there.But again,i also used to be so stressed out.But slowly started realizing that its taking my happiness away.This is what I do in these cases:

    1)If possible take a day off from work.

    2)Ignore DH and dont cook for that day and order food from outside.If he keeps bothering you,give him a hug(even its his mistake,u can deal better when you are in a calm and happy mood) and tell him that u have much other imp thing to take care of kid than to argue with DH and you know that you both would reconcile later anyway,as you love each other;)

    3)Stop talking to all those friends and all,eat well,stay with the kid.Because he needs you to the most and pamper yourself a little with TV or whatever.

    4)Finally keep telling your self this "Whether its good or bad,things will change" :)

    These things will get me some happiness.If i am happy,then i can make others happy.Crying is good way to vent out,but it never showed me any solution,so why to cry,instead try to ignore all.Keep practicing it and i am sure you will see a difference.

    Thanks.
     
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  9. Nimbu

    Nimbu Silver IL'ite

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    Fight with H - Ignore that day will be alright soon
    Sick Kid - Pay attention immediately
    Co-workers & Work - Take off that day so that you can take care of your kid which is priority meanwhile you forget your office worries
    Friends complain - Leave it there without kindling it

    While you kid is recovering ..you relax by doing the thing which makes you happy the most. It could be a simple phone call and talking to your mom/loved ones when venting you will be relieved completely.
     
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