Marriage Problem , Please Advice..

Like a typical man, he is insecure and wants to control you for the rest of your life. Divorce! Divorce! Divorce!

Your ex should have disappeared from your life but it looks like he has found a new job being your relationship consultant.

 

Refuse to sacrifice your career. Cut all contacts with your ex.

 

Physical abuse in relationship is a BIG no... Red flag....!
This should be good enough to think further and decide.

It's just my opinion..

 

Maybe your H knows about your ex ,your forced marriage and your communications with him, thats why-
1 He doesn't want you to work=meet ex,
2 No physical relationship
3 No kids
4 Sad face
5 Divorce
6 DV
You should have discussed about your ambitions, job before marriage and made it clear.
Right now your parents forced into arranged marriage so you are not any support from them?

Say no to DV, walk out,get a job, file for D.
Most hubbies cannot tolerate DW's ex or BF , education has nothing to do with this.

 

Apply , get a job and see what happens. How much ever you manage they are going to hurt you that some thing is lagging. Tell him that your ambitions, need to work and in laws have to adjust.

 

Dear Pink,

Is your dh aware of your ex?
If so you make sure that you are listening to him and make him fell that you only love your dh and forgot the past and not interested to turn back. See in a married life a husband can not digest that his wife loved some one and also the same with the wife so he might be in that stress that you have still not taken him as your own.

Do you have any financial ups and downs?

If you have such pblms then it is very important for you to hold a job and if you are not into that pblm then why you want to cost your married life for a job when your dh is not interested?

First of all you have a job as to understand what your dh wants see why you both dont have a relationship for long time?

You say your mom is in a good position so you also want to be like her. But your father never opposed so she was able to manage. But for you it is not the same case.

What in terms of you is a career? A life with out a spouse? That is never right. think wise as you have good knowledge.

You try for some things else instead of job a good business which will keep you busy if your dh is interested.

Now in a year if you think of divorce what would be next after you earn lot of money? Nothing but a lonely life with out any one to share your life and happiness.

this is what i feel. If i were in your place i would chose dh and make him feel as how he want me to be....... and think of career in future.......

 

Sorry, but I have to ask, why did you do that?! An 'ex' is an ex for a reason. You don't need any more complications in your marital life than what you already have.

You say that your hubby is a bully and a domestic tyrant, and you cannot fit into his mould of what his wife ought to be, then that means you two are simply incompatible.

There's just one solution - part ways. That will free you both to pursue your own dreams.

 

If your H is reaching extremes, EX is not the one to contact. By writing to EX you are complicating life further.