The Fight Between Couples Are Like Passing Clouds

Some years ago I was staying with one of my relatives. He had just then conducted the marrigae of his daughter in a grand manner. His daughter and son-in-law were seen off to the US. Both were medical practitioners.

Everyday his daughter used to telephone her mother in India. One day I overheard his daughter sobbing on the phone. The daughter's mother disclosed to me that the reason for his daughter's sobbing was the prospect of a divorce.

I told my host's wife to ask her daughter to telephone her after two days.

After two days she got a call from her daughter saying that everything was back to normal.

Then I narrated to her the following shloka -

ajaa-yuddham rishi-shraaddham
prabhaathe megha-dambaram /
dampathyoh kalahashchaiva
parinaame na kimchana //

ajaa-yuddham - the fight between two she-goats
rishi-shraaddham - the sraaddha ceremony conducted by a rishi.
prabhaathe megha-dambaram - thundering of clouds in the morning
dampathyoh kalahah - a couple's quarrel
parinaame - in the end
na kimchana - nothing

Some more explanation -

ajaa-yuddham.

Sometimes, two goats would try to hit each other. They will stand apart a few feet . Then would start running towards the other with great force. If they hit each other they are sure to hurt and kill themselves. But by the time they reach the other they would slow down so much that they would stop short of hitting.

rishi-shraaddham

When the rishis perform shraaddha ceremoy they will engage
in a sankalpam which will extend to an hour or more.
But the sraaddha ceremoney iteself would last only a few minutes.

prabhaathe megha-dambaram

If there is thunder and lighning in the morning one
can be sure that there would be no rain.

dampathyoh kalahah.

Quarrel between husband and wife.
It would look like they would kill each other.
But in the end there will be nothing.

Dear Sundari
You have written in your own unique way..Yes very nice to read..

Dear Sonkan,

Your message well taken.

Roopa

Sunkan,

good one. I always thing a fight is a passing cloud unless there is a interference which makes it rain...that is if the couple sit and understand the problem without any outside interference.. there is no fight.

And also fight the argument or disagreement and not the person..this goes a long way..

Hello Maam,
It is very much true that fight between husband and wife is like passing cloud.
It will be over by end of night. There is a famous saying in kannada that 'Husband and wive's fight is until sleeping time'.
But the people who interfere between this fight will be in a big fix later and become bad. But the sad part is they don't understand this. They think that they are doing great service by interfereing in couple's fight and try to side their parties.

Regards.

Originally Posted by anandchitra

Dear Sundari
You have written in your own unique way..Yes very nice to read..

AC sometime i feel we need to read our scriptures when young and learn a lot many things before we get into any alliance that may help us to foresee what is going to happen but then i again feel the maturity that u have now would never be there then and we may think all to be quack doc advice..sunkan

Originally Posted by roopadadia

Dear Sonkan,

Your message well taken.

Roopa

dear roopa,
my father's famous words were this any trouble and the mind troubled he would say PASSING SHOWERS so keep cool how true he was but to register it one has to go through things to understand the wise..sunkan

Originally Posted by shanvy

Sunkan,

good one. I always thing a fight is a passing cloud unless there is a interference which makes it rain...that is if the couple sit and understand the problem without any outside interference.. there is no fight.

And also fight the argument or disagreement and not the person..this goes a long way..

the fight between the husband wife is healthy, sometime both take out their frustrations and avoid depressions later, and another thing is the manaoing which is the most beautiful stuff after the fight, when one knows the other is wrong especially the men always think later, for some reason i have found women not serious stuff but to be getting wrong things like may be a bad purchase or something too silly but not like major relation break down which men in their ego stoke and we woman have a tough time saving it from blowing out of proportion...nice to see u here..sunkan

Originally Posted by puni88

Hello Maam,
It is very much true that fight between husband and wife is like passing cloud.
It will be over by end of night. There is a famous saying in kannada that 'Husband and wive's fight is until sleeping time'.
But the people who interfere between this fight will be in a big fix later and become bad. But the sad part is they don't understand this. They think that they are doing great service by interfereing in couple's fight and try to side their parties.

Regards.

puni if you notice in the initial stage of marriage when the understanding is yet to be made with husband and wife they always pick up someone to stand by their point and the person involved is sometime foxed for being there and not able to understand him getting branded for wrong judgement, yes this is what u meant...thanku for being here..sunkan

Dear Sunkan,
100% agreed with you on this.Husband and Wife Quarrel is only timely.I always tell my DH that we fight only when there is a third person intervention in our matters.If not, everything goes smooth, we talk and resolve.He agrees to that too.Its so natural for a third person to give opinions in a totally different way,which most of the times complicate the issue.

Nice Topic Sunkan!