Dowry Harassment

Dallas, Texas – It is very unfortunate to see a young Telugu woman end her life in a horrific way in Woodbridge City in New Jersey State. Here is the full story.
Subhashini Narne, 25, native of Alankurapadu, Prakasam District, AP, married Sreekanth Rama, 30 yrs, native of Tanguturu, Prakasam Dist., a software professional, just a year ago and came to USA with full of dreams. After some time she felt that something was missing in her life. Recently, Subhashini called her sister and father expressed her displeasure of her marital life and complained about the continuous demands and harassment of her husband for more dowry. Subhashini's father consoled her and reiterated that he would distribute whatever he has to all three of his daughters equally.
Prasad Thotakura, TANA Secretary, in a press statement said "I got a phone call from Subhashini's family from India on Wednesday requesting help to get more details of her death and make arrangements to send the body to India. I spoke with Dr. Zhang Arex, Medical Examiner, who is handling the case and couldn't believe what I heard. It is very sad to know her horrific death. Subhashini swallowed several US coins weighing more than 1 pound, stabbed herself several times very deep on her left and right wrists, left chest and near abdominal area. She was brought to Raritan Bay Hospital in Woodbridge city, New Jersey around 9:30 PM on Tuesday; doctors tried their best to stop her flow of bleeding but couldn't and declared her dead around 3:00 AM on Wednesday morning".
"Even though Dr. Zhang declared her death as a suicide, the cause of her death is very deep rooted. It takes at least two to three months to get full detailed autopsy report. I'm working with Woodbridge City police department to investigate this case thoroughly and get to the root cause of her death. We are making arrangements to move her body to a nearby funeral home, obtain all needed documents to send her body to India as soon as possible". Prasad Thotakura, Indian American Community Leader, said
Prasad Thotakura said "It is very unfortunate to see number of these kinds of deaths in USA. I urge all parents to have a thorough background check of people before they get into alliances. It is very important to give priority for the character and family values rather than material possessions and professions".

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Dallas, Texas – It is very unfortunate to see a young Telugu woman end her life in a horrific way in Woodbridge City in New Jersey State. Here is the full story.
Subhashini Narne, 25, native of Alankurapadu, Prakasam District, AP, married Sreekanth Rama, 30 yrs, native of Tanguturu, Prakasam Dist., a software professional, just a year ago and came to USA with full of dreams. After some time she felt that something was missing in her life. Recently, Subhashini called her sister and father expressed her displeasure of her marital life and complained about the continuous demands and harassment of her husband for more dowry. Subhashini's father consoled her and reiterated that he would distribute whatever he has to all three of his daughters equally.
Prasad Thotakura, TANA Secretary, in a press statement said "I got a phone call from Subhashini's family from India on Wednesday requesting help to get more details of her death and make arrangements to send the body to India. I spoke with Dr. Zhang Arex, Medical Examiner, who is handling the case and couldn't believe what I heard. It is very sad to know her horrific death. Subhashini swallowed several US coins weighing more than 1 pound, stabbed herself several times very deep on her left and right wrists, left chest and near abdominal area. She was brought to Raritan Bay Hospital in Woodbridge city, New Jersey around 9:30 PM on Tuesday; doctors tried their best to stop her flow of bleeding but couldn't and declared her dead around 3:00 AM on Wednesday morning".
"Even though Dr. Zhang declared her death as a suicide, the cause of her death is very deep rooted. It takes at least two to three months to get full detailed autopsy report. I'm working with Woodbridge City police department to investigate this case thoroughly and get to the root cause of her death. We are making arrangements to move her body to a nearby funeral home, obtain all needed documents to send her body to India as soon as possible". Prasad Thotakura, Indian American Community Leader, said
Prasad Thotakura said "It is very unfortunate to see number of these kinds of deaths in USA. I urge all parents to have a thorough background check of people before they get into alliances. It is very important to give priority for the character and family values rather than material possessions and professions".

Its a horrifying and a sad story. I just hope the wrong doers get punished so that this is not repeated again. What dowry ,being Software engineers arent they capable enuf to take care of wives. Which rule in the book says you can demand dowry becoz u are educated to such and such a level.
If we can do something about it we should try to do it.

I wish Subhashini's parents should have acted in a more responsible manner rather than giving in to the whims and fancies of the SIL

Also, Subhashini should have been more pro active and files a complain or yaken help of any such organisation there which helps such victims.

Time and again i would like to say that self help is the best help.

Roopa.

Oh my god...its is so sad to read this article and i wish tht her husband shd be put behind bars forever.
No one should be spared in this case. Even guys parents should be behind bars.

May peace be there for deceased and mourners. When the milk is spilt, no point analysing what went wrong. Whats done is done. We all as a society are culrpits of her.

We live in a society where we teach our girls, "Being married is more important than being alive". We teach them, you are our dearest creation but we are deeply ashamed of ourselves that we could not bear a male child instead of you. We will go to any length to secure a wealthy and greedy vulture for you , so that you lie dead one day on his expensive golden bed. Atleast you will have solace that you died on something gold. Once you complain and cry for help , we will give our helpless fears of society and family relations. So that you are pushed back to same golden bed until you decide to free your own soul.

We all fail our deceased dowry ridden daughters everyday. Because we all are weak people inside. We could not accept the fact in first place that it s female kid. Whatever persued from there is chain reaction of guilt, fear and wretchedness. Two weak parents can never raise one strong kid. So weakness keep breeding weakness. And very soon we have a weak society who doesnot budge when someone is molested in front of them. A society , who doesnot blink an eye in buying a rich groom and making sure their guilt is well placed in golden cage.

By our weakness we even disgrace the mighty female spirit. A spirit which can raise societies and generations, we continue to sully it in name of domesticity and homeliness. A home is where your soul feels belonged and connected. Not a place where you are pushed to walls and poured with oil. We all should be sorry that we dont enable our daughters enough for failures. Failure is as probable as success in any transaction of life. But we all flinch from preparing for it. We all want a happy home ending to our dear ones. But no matter how careful you tread , how much you educate, strength of will in face of adversity needs to be explicitly inculcated since the time of birth. But for some reason, we want to run away from grassroot reality that any planned move may not go as per desired.

Sorry for my dear friend, we have lost many like you. And we still are coming of age. We are still somehow convincing ourselves that for whatever reasons things dont work. Its the lady who should compromise. Compromise wiht dreams , hopes and lastly with blood.

I mourn here in your death, because it reminds of my two best known friends whom I lost to this monster called dowry. Pain is not that I lost you, pain is that we havent done anything about it.

Ria

very sad and unfortunate. I just wish subhashini has the courage to fight back instead to ending her life and they way her life has ended must have taken a lot of courage.

Wish she had showed this kind of courage in surviving.

But well said Ria and i agree with you wholeheartedly. You have put down in words what we all women must be feeling.