Stubborn Hushand - how to manage??

The best thing to do would be to let him get normal at his own pace. Next time, you both fight tell him, what matters most in this relationship is not our parents but me and you. We will only be bitter and hate each other if we bring parents into our arguments. But when in argument, lets focus on us.
As or when is family is coming, dont bring this up with either of them, let him recuperate from his last fight, be cordial with them and loving towards him. Don't give him a reason to bring this dirty laundry out in front of your inlaws. This will only worsen the situation for you.
Personally I think you will always like, love or tolerate inlaws only because you love your spouse, it can never be other way around. You cannot just love your in-laws no matter how nice they are, because you feel conneced to them via your spouse.
I love/like my in-laws because I love my husband very much and I know sharing a good relationship with them will make him happy.

 

One think you must understand, your husband like many others has not grown up and is used to throwing tantrums, to get his way.

He is NOT going to change....might reduce slightly after 5-10 years but will never go away! This is hIS character trait.

Now you have to learn either put up with it or prove your point and continue fighting for the rest of your life together.

When he says things about your family or drag their names into your fights, is only because he knows it Will get you mad and more angry. So don't let him push your buttons, ignore his comments and eventually he will realize that this tactics are not. working and will stop it.

Until the you are just ging to have to put up withit as you want tocontinuethis relationship!

 

When we call someone stubborn.. there's something equally about us... we're asking/ sticking for X and that person is telling/ sticking to Y (which can also be -X ).

How to avoid fights - don't interfere or question.... wait for the day when the goals become common and mutual. It can be an endless wait or the light can come soon.

Don't get asked to leave - Its democracy - freedom of speech, you can't ask ppl not to speak what they want.... you can either make yourself immune to this statement or .... never bring up a topic which leads to fight so that the breadwinner MAN is at peace or... clarify it to your husband & inlaws that you don't plan to go anywhere in the most decent tune & facial expression... no matter u feel like a volcano inside.

 

Dear Briteson,

It is the mentality of the men to dominate women in one or the other way. And the very good option they have is to throw tantrum about our family, so that we get hyper and tell them abt their family. which they will take a point to keep their ego ahead. Men are the most egoistic person, they wont bow.

Now to deal with it, u need to be patient.

first of all u should keep ur ego aside and plan out something special for him.

Secondly say sorry and tell him that i told u as i was angry but i did not meant that at all. i know its not that easy but if u want to maintain your relation u need to bow little. Remember "Only trees which bow can bear fruits".

As well as try to have normal talk. do not talk about the fight or who was right and who was wrong.

Thirdly never let ur inlaws get involve in ur fights. to fight is the right of every couple, but inlaws does not have right to interfere in it.

Try to work this out as soon as possible.

Let me know if it helped u in any way.

Rgds,
jewel

 

Ouch....!! :drowning

Men are egoistic. True. But I have seen a lot of women with the super ego.....not willing to bow down to compromise with even
when the husband is ready to compromise...!