What to do - should I stay or leave?

Hi friend,
Do you know the name of the sick woman, tell DH that you want to meet her too. This way you can see the chemistry between them.
Its Ok to have read the phone texts .
Drop in at lunch time unannounced and see for yourself what is happening.
Having long phone conversations with a girl for whom he has admitted having a soft corner is a red flag.

 

Very interesting. He must have told that b**ch that you found out. Why did u want to talk o her? I am sure he knows how to get in touch with her. Bring the roof down and insist on meeting her if you want to.

How is your relationship with inlaws? Will mil help if you talk to her about it?

 

Dont decide anything now,leaving or staying.Find out more abt your DH.
If you cant find out now,wait for sometime.Truth will come out eventually,then decide what to do.

 

Hi sweetmahua, my suggestions may sound bad to you, but listen or read it 10 thousand times carefully before you make any kinda decision. This is my personal advice just by reading your story. These questions or suggestions I am asking it to you and then I will talk about your hubby. First you have to see that you have a daughter which is 8 yrs old now. Are you mentally well prepared for the worse to come or worse to happen next in your life ask yourself that first. The more deep **** you go into and creep about it the more truth you shall reveal it and then ultimately small talks/lies would turn into big fights which would directly lead to one thing DIVORCE. Are you well prepared for this thing? Are you financially well prepared to take care of yourself and your kid when she becomes big and can you manage her marriage on your own and her education and everything ask these all ?s to yourself first. So think before you talk or creep more deep into your hubby's life.

Now lets talk about your husband. You said he had a GF in college. Did he mentioned to you about that before marriage or after marriage? The gal that he is smsing is she from your building or outside your building. You have the contact number. You can easily find out the address information through that contact number. Nowadays taking out a contact number address is very easy if you have good contacts/Money to spend. You know dear in this evil world every person is not honest. Its the environment which makes them dishonest. So I would just say do whatever you want but think about the things I told you first. Also a man goes to another women when he is not satisfied from his wife or does not get proper kinda love which he expects after being home from his wife. He may have tried to talk with you but you might have ignored him or anything as such due to stress and all. My apologies if you feel anything bad about what I said.

The reason I am telling you all these things because I have personally listened to so many things from most of the housewives for hours and hours that now I really feel like the housewives should understand this is a modern generation 21st century. Either give lots of love to your hubby or else find some who is a good harishchandra son right from the childhood. But I think there hardly would be any and if there is then I can say he might be a gay.

 

Give your H a stern warning that he should stop all these things as you do not like them.Also tell him that he is married and has a responsibility towards you.He needs to declare that he is married and have friendly conversation once in a while and not flirt.

 

Hi Op,
Nip all flirting and giving TLC to other women in the bud and put the fear of God in the H.
Marriage is a serious commitment , any spouse who closes her/his eyes to the spouse's dalliances is inviting trouble.
There is no point in calling that woman, she will say control your H, he is running after me.
The wife has to be strict and let the H know that she will not tolerate any hanky-panky from H.
PS -Try calling her from your H's phone , arrange a meeting with her and H or they may continue fooling you.

Of course you should stay and enjoy the comforts provided by H, just tell him to control his libido.Walking out will give him freedom to do as he wishes. He may not agree to divorce or drag the case.
Stay right there, its your home , you have a right as a wife, why run away???
Many H want the wife to walk out so that they are free to enjoy while the wife struggles for a roof with kids, don't make that mistake.
Its called deserting your matrimonial home , and puts the wife on the backfoot.

 

leave ur job, stay at home
or
if u feel ur job is more important than ur life / husband........
u can jus leave him

u can not change him, unless u engage him fully, for the rest of ur life...