What do you think about this?

Well Troubled7, I don't know what there is to think or not think. She is also a woman. So what is there to be surprised? She has her share of problems too.

 

Well...u could be famous but probs remain the same. I think our society is living in denial that there is a problem with joint family setup. Too much parental interference is destroying a lot of marriages.

 

Its a very sad state of affairs. Most of these women opt to sit at home after their marriage, giving up on their career. this is what they get from their husbands and in-laws. shame!

Kudos to all the supportive husbands and in-laws of the world.

 

I do not agree that only women who sit at home face this problem. If you go through the threads on this forum then you will see that a large no of women who are working face similar issues. It is just that parents think they have the right to interfere in the sons life....in a lot of cases they also have a right over his property and money. A major change in mindset is required where the son's family is considered for all practical purposes a separate family. Get together in times of trouble and happiness...jmo.

 

There are two sides to the coin. The word separate family is being ingrained in each of the younger generation's brain to the extent that they will start thinking about 'themselves'. Then, parents (or inlaws) will be needed only to tend to the new born and younger grandchildren, and they will be out of the picture as soon as kids can manage on their own. Use and throw! We need to understand that the many of us will become in-laws some day.

I think rather than focussing on one side, the key is to find a balance where the PIL's don't interfere too much nor they are thrown out of their son's (daughter's) family. Sounds Utopian though as of now.

 

Troubled sorry to say, you are viewing all this with tinted glasses! There is nothing much to say. In many posts, your views are women are behind money, and they should 'divorce amicably' etc etc.
Unless you are a woman, who spends her life with someone, and is traumatized, you would not understand the other side of the story. No one here is taking stands unreasonably. But your advice 'divorcing amicably' ...seems so far fetched. You suggest the woman who marries has to be available spending her youth in the marriage, ends up finding that the marriage is miserable, and is supposed to divorce amicably!! In your view the woman is the perpetrator, and I beg to differ, men are no less!

 

Any news article which carries only version of story is not even worth discussing. I did not even see a single statement from the husband or an attempt to reach him. She can ofcourse allege anything, without cross-questioning and guy's version I think its like batting without fielders.

 

This is the problem...I quite expected the response. When I said separately I did not mean cut ties with parents. You do not have to live under the same roof and make your wife a docile obedient slave in order to prove that you love your parents. Maybe people can live separately and balance their lives. I live in the middle east and even in this conservative society a guy will not get married unless and until he is able to support his wife. Late marriages in men is very common. And mind you their families are very close. You will see relatives visiting each other on a regular basis.
As far as property is concerned you do not have to buy property in juhu in Bombay or golf links in Delhi...there are cheaper options available.