Financial asset

I am not aware of the legal aspects to get the name included . I just know you need to talk to your husband diplomatically about this to include your name in important things like bank, property. ( if it's your husbands). Do u have a kid? Tell him to discuss your financial position as to where things are? How much etc? Slowly recommend to add your name too in case of any untoward event it might serve as a fallback for you. If you have any investments make sure o add him as your beneficiary .rather than asking him to change name it might hurt your fils feelings ask him to make joint investments in you guys name if you have a kid it's even more better you can use this as an opportunity to make him realize the need for a security.

 

Chanduy.

You want money ? - Get yourself added to his account,atm,credit cards.

Do you work? If yes, build your property, buy stocks or whtaevr policies for yourself.

i knwo am wrong but this is what i felt reading the post - you are worrying over material things. In the process you may loose your peace.

Tomorrow is faaaaar away so faar away, make your today pleasant for a pleasant tomorrow.

 

As far I know, most DH do by themselves after their marriage. If he hasn't done that, means the controlling figure is FIL. I won't loose my sleep over this. But, something that needs to be worked on, over time. I don't think, you can force him on this matter, if he is not doing it willingly by himself.

As Naksh suggested, if you are working try to invest/save money by yourself or just, get 'pocket money' to save under your name (I don't feel shy/afraid to ask, if I think, it is fair & it is mine).

 

Dear OP,
Don't worry about such things, get a job if you are staying at home.
Since your marriage had a rocky start it may take some more time for things to change.
Most DH change the nomination after marriage , your DH will also do it.
But if you discuss it then it seems that you are imagining the worst .How would you feel if you were in his shoes?
It seems so mercenary and selfish to worry about one's assets, property if the spouse passes away!!!
In the worst case scenario most organisations offer a job to the spouse.
Hope it not to just to irritate FIL,DH and prove that your rights as a wife.:bonk
Tread carefully or you may be stirring more trouble.

 

Hi Chandy
I believe if your marriage is registered, whether you are nominee or not it will automatically come to youas you are the legal heir, ofcourse a share will go to your in-laws. Don't discuss this with your DH & spoil your relationship.
Have a nice day.
Prema Barani

 

I think as long as your marriage is registered, you automatically have a share in your spouse's assets ( and that works both ways). It may take time to get things sorted out however.

I believe it requires a lot of courage to plan for the unforeseen and be prepared for anything life throws at us. There is nothing wrong with your thinking or questioning. I have seen this happen to a close relative and while you will not be thinking of money during a death, you will definitely need it after that for life to continue (more so if you have kids).

However forcing your spouse to include your name may seem weird and probably materialistic to him and his family. Try to bring it up casually when you guys are relaxed and discussing your future. But I would not lose sleep over this since you guys are legally married.