My Problem...please help

Is there any major difference in lifestyle between you two? Like she is super ultra rich, had lot of servant maids to cater to every needs?
Was she the same prior to marriage..I think no..as you have mentioned she has mellowed down once you spoke with her parents.
Probably her dream of staying married in an european country is different. Have a talk with her including her and your parents. Put her things in black and white, what's your expectaion and try to get hers too.
If possible,Give this marriage some more effort before trying to break-up.

 

Discuss with your parents and her parents and take their opinion.

Make clear of your expectations to your wife and put some target dates for change in behaviour.

If no change in her behaviour then take steps to separate from her after informing both sides parents.

 

hi Balboa,

reading your post i am wondering such women exist in out country. How about her parents??? They have same life style, i can imagine if she is really like this then she is spoilt brat not a women. She is financially depend on you if i am correct. Why you give her money for casino??? Are u really earning that much?? I am wondering to see your patience how u are tolerating all this?? Actually i cant digest the fact that a husband like u so forgiving and wife like her exist. And if exist are living together like this more than a week. If she is so careless selfish arrogant why dont you leave her at her parents house and dont support financially. May be she can come back to her senses. I really feel sorry to write like this. But both of u discuss pros and cons of such life. Anyways if she has to live like roommate she can go to he parents house.. take care and post after reading others post u are vanished..

 

Like one poster mentioned here.. your situation is too far fetched, more like slavery which is so not happening these days. Either you are very submissive type or trying to gauge our (ILites) perception of reality.

If this is a real problem, here's a simple solution. Reciprocate her behavior in kind...

Stop funding her excesses: shopping, casinos, etc.
Stop cooking and cleaning for her. You have your food in the office. If she cooks for herself, great. Else she can sleep hungry.
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When she starts a fight over this, tell her that in marriage both of you have to be like partners. She also has to pitch in and contribute to the relationship. If she doesnt, you also dont have any obligation towards her.

If she threatens you with divorce or suicide, tell her that you will pursue a legal solution to this problem. Let her work out the rest.

 

Whoa.. this is definitely not the way modern society lives. If thats her perception of modern society, she must be living in a socitey where it is completely normal to treat your spouse like doormat. Is this the way things are at her parents place?

 

Dear Mr.Balboa....

Have you tried talkin to her one to one...I mean straight to the point...? Have you asked her the reason, for her inhuman and absurd behaviour..? How does she react to it..??

Well, if none of the above has worked, I guess, you need intervention from her family's side, I mean its high time you should be confiding in her parents and making them understand, that their daughter is treating you like a doormat for no reason at all...!!! Also, I would suggest that give your wife an ultimatum that you are thinkin of divorcing her..!!!

You are indeed living a miserable life and you need to get out of it, the sooner the better...!!!

Good Luck to you and God Bless...!! :thumbsup