[priyaj1986]

In most of the cases I could see MIL, SIL spoiling DIL’s life. MIL/SIL bother DIL in some way to the least.
Why don’t they understand it’s their son/brother’s life which is getting spoiled. They might have brought up their son with utmost care and affection, hence their ultimate aim should be seeing him living happily.But everywhere it happens the other way..
Why do they spoil his life when they have completed living their life?
I feel always woman is the enemy of another woman…

[spuppala]

Hi Priya,

Welcome to IL.
If everyone set their limits and live accordingly then there won't be any problem at all.Its all about understanding each other be it a couple or a DIL-MIL relationship...

[sangiak]

Hi priya,
I absolutely and entirely agree with your views above - 100% Well said.

regards
sangiak

[priyaj1986]

May be when we become a MIL.. we may behave the same way.. :)

[abcdguy]

It is strange women are just generally not very friendly with other women. They see them as competition in all aspects of their life. This is even common in the workplace.

[priyaj1986]

Ofcourse yes... Even we seem to be friendly we are jealous over other women in one or other aspects..

[amunique]

yes... agreed.. but why is this?? men get along so well with other men.. why not women... sad but true... :(

[priyaj1986]

Is it common only in India or other countries as well?

[anugamit]

Women are more sensitive than men.

[tanoshii]

I won't say men get along well. At least not everyone and not all the time. But they also play it very discreetly and don't display it. They just seem to mind their own business and fade out these things far easily than women can.

Women, on the other hand, cannot seem to stop. If two women don't get along, there is a choice to leave things as they are and just say - we are fine as we are and we'll agree to disagree. But unfortunately we don't. Yes, I too have switched on the argumentative mode quite a few times and questioned these differences. But it does not help. And am learning this every day. When we get emotional (that happens a lot more in women than in men) the actual logic of a problem gets shadowed and personal feelings pop out. Everyone is right in their own way and no one wants to submit to the other. But its important to understand that what one person knows or believes may not suit the other. There is no right and wrong. But that is just not as easy to accept and practise.

I have relatives and acquaintances who I don't get along with. Men and women. But I find the men least bothered and they just inquire now and then and we are done. Women, on the other hand, have to sit and analyse, actually over-analyse the situation and KNOW what's going on in the other's head. How can your so called equal (another woman) judge you and comment? How can a JUNIOR disrespect the SENIOR, who's more experienced and wiser by saying something new..anything..even if that is right in its own way?

Opposites attract and Likes repel. Can't help it. Just got to do what we can do best - develop loads and loads of patience :D