I am sure the answers to the question " How to live happily with an unloving spouse/unhappy marriage?" would help everyone who sail in the same boat.
In a brief, my husband doesn't bother to ask me when I am in pain. But this doesn't apply to his parents or friends or colleagues. But anyway I got used to this kind of behavior. I no longer tell him if i am sick or even my parents or sick.
He is silent and reserved. This is to me and not to his parents/friends. He doesn't like to share much of his office things /happenings with me and also very reserved type. This was not the case when we were newly married. Anyway I am the only one who initiates communication about kids. Even if i ask about his project, it will be a one word/one line answer. These days I prefer browsing IL rather than yearning for him to talk.
He doesn't like me holding hands or a small hug in public or even at home in front of kids. He says he doesn't like such things and pushes my hand away when i touch him. I got used to this too.. In early months of marriage, he was the one who used to do such things. Now I got used to it and I don't hold his hand anymore.
He doesn't appreciate anything. Even if its a good food, he won't even say a word. If I ask, he will just shake his head and move on. I told him I am offended. But he says he is like that. I have stopped asking him about the food that I cook (No matter what special item I cook, i keep quiet).
But with this kind of spouse, I am not happy. Although he helps me with kids (bathing, feeding and stuff) and house cleaning and other stuff, still his behavior is what that keeps me sad. Any of you'll or senior ILites, provide me with good suggestions to keep myself happy and contented with an unexpressive spouse.