Re: Husband anxious over money. Does not allow me to spend at all.
He doesnt have any debts has he? Something which you dont know perhaps? Do you know how much he has saved so far, after all these years of this life style? If he really did save everything, then see below for what could be the reason for this peculiar behavior.
It may be due to the background. The reason I am saying is, when my father was growing up as a kid, my grand parents were very poor. In fact they had to struggle even to buy school uniforms and shoes. So, it was imprinted in my dad's mind that without money there is no life. Both my parents work and thus it wasnt much of a problem for us kids. But in your case since you are not working, it could get difficult. My mom has tried changing his perspective but gave up. I gave this example so that you can see a different perspective. It could be that even your husband has some strong notions which he is carrying right from his childhood? You would have observed his parents, his siblings. How do they behave when it comes to money?
I am not advising you to give up. Look for other options like trying to find work, since your kids are not too young now. Or like Geetha suggested, ask him for a fixed pocket money. That really helps.
Good luck dear.
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