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Recently, there has been a popular artical on Wall Street Journal, "Where Have The Good Men Gone?" (go to Wall Street Journal's website, and in the search type in name of artical and about the 4th result down is the original artical).
The author says that caucasian males have an extended adolescence. What is most facinating is the thousand of more comments discussing the causes for this, i.e. several people saying, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free".
For some reason, this artical made me think.
I was born and raised in USA and for the longest time, till about two or three years ago, I was terrified of getting married to an Indian man because of the horror stories I have heard in Indian-American newspapers, the type of stories descrived in these forums, and the things I have seen on TV.
I always swore that I will marry a caucasian male (much to the disappointment of my dear parents, who now I realize did so much for me, and put up with me). However, when I got into the workplace, and was exposed to how they are, how they disregard their families, how they view raising their kids are a burden, I started to realize the good qualities of our culture.
The wake up call came when older causasian males began to feel insecure around someone like me: 2nd generation American females who studied hard because their parents encouraged them to, are working side-by-side with them because of their hard work (not some handout), yet they respect themselves like American women of the 1950's, they showed their jealousy and insecurity (and even outright bullying from one young caucasian male whose advances of "having fun" I had refused). One middle-age caucasion male told me bluntly I shouldn't even be in the workplace; later I learned that his marriage is in trouble and he cannot control his two teenage daughters.
Now I appreciate the opportunity I have to do matrimonial correspondences with young men of Indian origin. Of course, dealing with in-laws is a challenge; guess being exposed to the workplace teaches one how to better navigate shark-infested waters.
Thank you for reading up to this point. I request your humble opinion on this Wall Street Journal artical. I usually don't post these type of things on the Internet, but this artical really got to me because I feel guilty for giving my dear parents a hard time about not wanting to get married to an Indian when I was younger. Now I want to embrace all that I have....