Re: why these husbands are so insensitive and mean
Kids are kids and I guess I know what OP is describing here when she said her husband was rude and not loving to her sisters kids. It is not that kids were unruly and he was like that. He basically is like that(Insensitive, rude,arrogant), even if they were behaving nicely he might have behaved as he behaved,not caring for their feelings.
Kids cannot be under some kind of mafia rule at home , unless they are damaging property or are really messy, then one can ask them for time out. But it is only OP who can undersand the body language, the expression, the hurt, the words used in anger etc that hurts people in relations..
OP has already described what has happened, it is no point she asking sorry to her husband for her sisters kids behavior which may not even be the reason to ask for sorry. If at all her sister kids were misbehaving knowing the sensitivity of relations, one needs to be rather more careful and request his wife or her sister that can they manage. I am sure most fo the mothers or wives will understand that something is not right and needs to be taken care of if they also see.
But not showing basic etiquette, screaming at kids, is insult..
OP, you cannot do anything, yes you becoming normal is taken for granted. Some people dont want to make up , even if he knows you are upset his ego may not allow him to approach you, because people who know they have wronged find very hard to make up or apologize esp if they have lot of ego.. And apology should not come after lot of days or time. If a person cannot see he or she has hurt someone, how can he or she apologize..
It is our fate we get in such relationship. There are no easy answers.. Sometimes we have to suck it up as much as we can , till we can....
Last edited by Tridev; 23rd January 2011 at 05:02 AM.
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