How to handle (always) teasing hubby?

iswaryadevi · Nov 10, 2010

Re: How to handle teasing hubby?

amnice said: ↑

Then the only option I can think of is........ IGNORING!!!!

There is nothing as peaceful as ignoring someone's stupidity. Tell her to ignore him even if it is hurting. Try this and see. He is getting attention from her when he starts talking all rubbish so he thinks his motive to first hurt her is working well and hence continuing non stop.

Once she starts ignoring this behaviour and foolish talk of his, then he may not find it interesting to carry on too.

That being said, she can do one more thing too. I dont think anyone would like to opt for this. I myself hate to do it. This is join him in his NONSENSE talk. Tell her that whenever he starts this talk she should be asking questions like..."WOW!! Is that lady so beautiful, what is so attractive in her, what do you like in her? how does she look like, has she got big boobs? How is her butt? what is she wearing??blah, blah blah......all shameless talk which a woman may find it hard to do.........All the talk should concentrate on 'that woman and her body' only.

That way your friends most insensitive husband may find it too awkward and odd for a woman ie., his wife, to be talking like this about another woman and he may get the message
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Thank you very much for your advice. I will definitely tell her these two points. But as I said, ignoring is very difficult for her. Her hubby makes sure she gets irritated. I am not sure how far she would accept the second point. She is a very possesive girl, so she may not be able to accept it. I will ask her to give it a try.

iswaryadevi · Nov 10, 2010

Re: How to handle teasing hubby?

rose8282 said: ↑

how about telling him seriously or not talking for a while or similar ways to get the point across?
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When she goes on telling him how much hurt she gets, he replies like 'You should take it as a humor, Who else can I tease' blah...blah...blah...

Not talking for a while - Will ask her to try. Thanks a lot for your advice.

cinderella06 · Nov 10, 2010

This is not a problem at all....my DH sometimes do like this to tease me...he enjoys my reaction for that..your friend is in her initial married life(i guess its a common thing to men tease his DW then convince...;-)) so all these are jolly kiddings...ask your friend to enjoy it..but if her DH continue this forever crossing the limit..then she have to talk about it seriously..or just ignore without giving any reaction diverting her mind in other work..if this non reacting mode continues her DH will lose interest in teasing..:crazy

iswaryadevi · Nov 10, 2010

cinderella06 said: ↑

This is not a problem at all....my DH sometimes do like this to tease me...he enjoys my reaction for that..your friend is in her initial married life(i guess its a common thing to men tease his DW then convince...;-)) so all these are jolly kiddings...ask your friend to enjoy it..but if her DH continue this forever crossing the limit..then she have to talk about it seriously..or just ignore without giving any reaction diverting her mind in other work..if this non reacting mode continues her DH will lose interest in teasing..:crazy
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Sometimes teasing is fine, but her hubby does this always. That is her problem. Guess, from all the replies, non reacting mode is the best treatment. Thanks a lot for your help...<input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input onclick="if(typeof(jsCall)=='function'){jsCall();}else{setTimeout('jsCall()',500);}" id="jsProxy" type="hidden">

AbhiSing · Nov 10, 2010

Ice

Your friend's Hubby loves her to the core and he is 100% sure that his wife trusts him to the core. That is why he ignites her (may be he loves when she is sooo infuriated) and then cajoles her. He is adding spice to the married life.

How I know the above..., my best friend's hubby is ditto. So I have witnessed the same scenario many times.

Ask your friend to accept him as such and enjoy life. She would feel bored if he stops his pranks.

iswaryadevi · Nov 10, 2010

Dear AbhiSing,

Yeah, what you say seem to be correct, she needs to learn to enjoy his pranks. I shall convey this too. Thanks for your comments

divaone · Nov 12, 2010

hi
i had the same prob before 2yrs i.e initial stages of married life:hiya. His motive is only to grab her attention nothing else. But its such an irritating thing,can be realised only when we face it! :drowning. What i did was, i just ignored his words.Tell your friend not to show any signs of low self confidence, jealousy,possessiveness etc..Ask her to stay cool and that will change his immatured behaviour. I never reacted. i honestly never felt any possessiveness. my dh left that habit after that. hope this helps ur friend too.Remember,its just a short term problem..

YingYang · Nov 13, 2010

Basically he is trying to seek a reaction out of her. It can be
Case 1 : she ignores him
Case2. She gets mad at him
Case 3: she get jealous.
Now lets consider the consequences:
Case 1 "If she ignores " : then he will try some more. As he is getting a kick out of it.. and even some more… Eventually your friend will either will get angry/hurt/frustrated or Jealous.
Case 2 "She gets mad" : Then he will get part of reaction out of her and he will be satisfied but she will be frustrated.
Case 3 "She gets jealous" : In this condition he gets the expected results but she will be suffering most.

As I read she likes the cajoling part right. So why not,as soon as the teasing begins try acting jealous(Just act not real). Then she will not have to endure more pain of teasing as he will start consloing. He gets what he wants and she gets a her cajoling…. Hee hee

iswaryadevi · Nov 13, 2010

divaone said: ↑

hi
i had the same prob before 2yrs i.e initial stages of married life:hiya. His motive is only to grab her attention nothing else. But its such an irritating thing,can be realised only when we face it! :drowning. What i did was, i just ignored his words.Tell your friend not to show any signs of low self confidence, jealousy,possessiveness etc..Ask her to stay cool and that will change his immatured behaviour. I never reacted. i honestly never felt any possessiveness. my dh left that habit after that. hope this helps ur friend too.Remember,its just a short term problem..
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Yes, I have asked her to try the ignoring technique...Thanks for for your advice

iswaryadevi · Nov 13, 2010

YingYang said: ↑

As I read she likes the cajoling part right. So why not,as soon as the teasing begins try acting jealous(Just act not real). Then she will not have to endure more pain of teasing as he will start consloing. He gets what he wants and she gets a her cajoling…. Hee hee
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This seems to me a very good idea :bowdown But will it work?? :spin

Thanks for your advice. Will inform her :thumbsup