Being born last is a curse or boon

Sudha like you im also the kadakutti in house with sis & bro.I feel happy to be the last kid in the house.They give more support to me.ITS A BIG GIFT.its not a curse or boon.

Even my hubby is the last in his family.

 

Even I am last born and so is my DH .
I love being the youngest as I have got the love of my brothers and SILs . My niece and nephew were born while I was in college and I loved looking after them .To this day they also treat me with a lot of love and are very close to me and vice-versa.
My parents passed away but I got a lot of support from my Brothers and SILs.
Anyway why bother with this question that is being last born a curse or a boon ??
Its not in our hands , but you could have selected an elder son instead of the youngest to marry if you were so bothered !!!!!!!

 

hi sudha.
i feel you are lucky to be pampered by your family and by your in laws.
do they atleast respect your husband's views?

my hubby is the youngest in his family.
not to say he was so pampered.
he doesn't argue or stand firm on his views with his mum, brother, etc.
he says that's respect.

besides that, say for instance if my hubby says he finds a particular movie really interesting and his brother says the movie was useless, his mum would only take his brother's words and tell everyone the movie was useless.

even when discussing about politic matters, his mum only thinks what his brother says is right. as if my hubby doesn't read etc.

my hubby is a very intelligent guy.
very good in general knowledge.
engineer and excellent with his job.
but his mum listens only to her other son.

because of this, they don't respect me too.
when they don't respect my husband, how to expect them to respect me?

they would ask me to hv a baby fast, my hubby would be beside me but doesn't say anything, when he's the one suggested we plan for a baby slowly.

mil would bad mouth about me to her family and friends.
simply because she doesn't respect my husband.
she loves her other daughter in law very much (wife of her favourite son).
i don't mind but she has no right to bad mouth about me to anyone.

for instance, if i say the temple priest adviced us that the newly weds shouldn't see a chariot for a year, she and others would say it's superstitious. but when her fav dil says not good to open an umbrella inside the house, they all obey her.

his family can't seem to accept that we are different from each other.
they hv same taste in everything, like food, clothes, colour etc.
and i am bad because i don't like the saree that they all like.

i hv to go through all these rubbish since my hubby doesn't talk back to them.
he says that's respect.
we respect our parents and other elderly people in my family too but we just don't keep quiet when they say something unpleasant.

i told my hubby, next time anyone from his family says or hints something at me, i am going to talk back (not fight but talk in a nice manner, maybe with a smile).
but hubby doesn't agree to this.
then i told him to stand for me when they say something.
he says let them say or think whatever they want, we don't have to create a fight and spoil the whole relationship.

i don't agree. as long as i (and/or hubby) keep quiet, they will countinue to disrespect us.
i cannot imagine living like this forever.

thanks and can someone pls tell me how do i create a new post (new topic)..

 

Sadwife go to the top and click on New Thread to start a new topic/post.

 

thanks flowerlady.
hv a nice day.

 

hi sudha,

thanks for the consoling words.
hv great day.

 

sudhakrishna,
you are being pampered dear. enjoy while it lasts.
In my case, my dh and i both are last borns.
But we happened to fall on the negative side of the graph. our parents did the best for the elders as they had the health. but could do nothing much for us. we had to do everything for ourselves. so all we had to do was taking care of them giving up on job, comforts etc. we have a small daughter and the burden is tough on us whereas the elders kids are all grown up. They needn't sacrifice anything in life.
I would say it was a curse on both of us and definitely not a boon. Atleast in our case.

 

sadwife, whatever you endured in in-laws place, i understand fully. i underwent the same kind. My FIL used to bad mouth about me and dh to his other sons and their wives. those people had a whale of time whale of time while he was alive. The kind of accusations they used to dart at me. God only helped me wade through all that.
But dear, it makes us stronger and more matured.