We salute her

Jasmine was leading a normal happy life. Married in a middle class family with in-laws, 2 brothers and 5 sisters. 2 of the sisters were already married at the time of her wedding.


Her husband was a professional and the parents thought that everything will be all right few years down the line. Jasmine had led a comfortable life at her parents though not luxurious. She started her new life with a lot of adjustments living in a one room kitchen with these many members. Restrooms were outside (common).

Being very demure, and never learnt to raise her voice, she adjusted well into the family. Slowly all the 3 sisters and brother also got married. They moved to a 1 BHK apartment with her in-laws and the daughter that she was blessed with after a few years of marriage.


Life was going fine. Even though her husband was a professional, she was always short of money. Running the house with mere 5000/- per month and 5 mouths to feed.


She was lucky that though hers in-laws and SIL were difficult to manage at times still she had good rapport with them and never raised her voice. Her husband was not a very open person…so she could never understand him. He never shared his business or anything else even with her or anyone else, except for one friend of his. He was so strict that even his parents and sisters never dared to ask him anything. Even though jasmine was so adjusting, he never had any respect for her and would talk to her roughly. Slowly, she started losing interest in him. She concentrated more on her daughter Ruhi and in-laws, who were now aged and couldn’t do much on their own. Her MIL also suffered a heart attack.


About 4 years ago, the husband incurred huge loss…don’t know how (as he never shared anything with anyone) and they lost everything. Not that they had anything much, but main thing was the flat and ornaments.


They were on the roads. Her BIL took the parents. He is also hand to mouth, but comfortable. Her husband no more and she survived with the help of her family.

Today its almost 3 years, she has not only come out of the shock, but has started to earn a decent living for herself and her daughter. Daughter is good at studies, so I am sure she will do well in future. Ruhi was also working for a couple of years to lend a helping hand to her mom. Because Jasmine had never raised her voice earlier, now all her relatives are very helpful to her, not only from her family but her in-laws family too everyone helps in whatever way they can.


Jasmine has never worked in an office before or does she knows English, and was at the threshold of half century when this incident happened, and with nothing in hand. The only possession that she had was her daughter who was about 16 yrs old studying in 12^th and what she was wearing i.e the dress they were wearing and the couple of bangles, mangalsurtra and ear rings. So the immediate problem of the family was how to make her comfortable first and then independent. Hence in a couple of months as soon as she started coming back to normal from the harrowing experience she had in the last quarter, she was trained to do small jobs from home like embroidery, snacks etc. And she is doing well as she is very quality conscious and gives good service hence, she has repeat customers and her business is growing by word of mouth.


With her sheer positive attitude, today for Jasmine past is past she never speaks of it and never blames anyone for what happened. And is steadily moving ahead in life.


At the age of 51 today, she has no regrets in life, now she is living for her daughter and herself and those family members who helped her in this lean period.

We salute such souls who have taken such incidents in their stride and moving forward in life.


All of us who know Jasmine and her life history to her.

Dear Roopa,

to JAsmine................

yes Adjustment Tolerance Sacrifice plays a vital role in our lives..................

I pray God Almighty to give Jasmine Good health, long life, peace and happiness

Thanks Padma, she really needs it. We are amazed that in the 3-4 years how she has managed to come out of that trauma and stabilise her life.

Dear Roopa,

Thanq dear for shring jasmine with us ,,kudos to her..
I feel that our troubles are nothing infront of her..

Hugs,
dg..

I really salute this lady Jasmine...and look upto her for her patience and perseverance. may god bless her and give her peace of mind and happiness and success in every step she takes...

Yes dear, starting from scratch all on your own specially when you are on the verge of hitting half a century is not an easy task.

Now everyone around her is careful not to broach the topic of her past...sometimes from their talks, we come to know that both have accepted the turn of events and say that whatever happened for good as for Jasmine..her husband really never cared for her so lately she had been mentally detached from him. And it is a natural feeling, we all agree to it.

We come across lot of such people in our social service activities. And we realise that we are far far better than them..so what are making a hue and cry for any small things. Maybe thats why i am sometimes a little stern and down to earth practical when i respond to the relationship forums.

Roopa.

Hi

No words About Jasmine




Regards

Hi Roopa,

to Jasmine. May God bless her.

Thanks Jai and Poonam.

HI Roopa,

thank you for sharing this success story with us. Its really heartening to know that Jasmine has picked up the threads of her life and has done well for herself.

Patience can take us a long way. I was dreading a sad ending as i was reading your post but was very glad to see the happy ending. I am really happy things worked out for Jasmine and shes done well for herlsef and her daughter. There is a lesson for all of us in this story.

Take care,
JJ