when relationship sours....

when relationship sours....it is better to give 2-3 months of calm and balanced thinking to see if things improve...

if things dont improve still or go worse...it is better to part ways....as the newspaper reports suggest one in six marriages are ending in divorce in mumbai...so girls dont feel bad if relationship goes bad..may be both of u were incompatible....

divorce is not cool or advisable but it hapens, it happens...so we can be less apologetic about it....

it is none of your fault...and the best way is to forget, forgive and move on...thats what the sensible people do....

if any of the spouse continues to haunt other spouse....it is not love...it is called obsseviness, jealousy and unwarranted stalking....welcome to brave new world but genuineness alone saves the relationship.....

the society threats, sucicide attempts, police threats are a total no no......and harm the threat giver as much as the hapless spouse ( male or female)

Hi Sonalie,

Isin't the divorce figure alarming. I think this makes a mockery of the institution called marriage.

Have we ever given it a thought why this happens. Is it just that the couple feel that they are not compatible or there is more to it than meets the eye.

Some points which comes to my mind are:

Proper understanding between the two.
Ego
Let go attitude
Giving enough space to each other
Creating an ideal homely atmosphere


There are some more...but lets hear from others.

Hi Roopapodia i agree with u.

Divorce is not the only solution.Should try out our best to make a nest.
Most important one which i learnt from my experience is have to give some time coz both have brought up from different envi and have their own dreams.Overnight nothing can be changed...

If nothing worked out then as Sonalie said can forgive,forget and move on.No use of cribbing about the past,b'coz wonderfull world is waiting for us.

Originally Posted by roopadadia

Hi Sonalie,

Isin't the divorce figure alarming. I think this makes a mockery of the institution called marriage.

Have we ever given it a thought why this happens. Is it just that the couple feel that they are not compatible or there is more to it than meets the eye.

Some points which comes to my mind are:

Proper understanding between the two.
Ego
Let go attitude
Giving enough space to each other
Creating an ideal homely atmosphere


There are some more...but lets hear from others.

Originally Posted by rajpriya

Hi Roopapodia i agree with u.

Divorce is not the only solution.Should try out our best to make a nest.
Most important one which i learnt from my experience is have to give some time coz both have brought up from different envi and have their own dreams.Overnight nothing can be changed...

If nothing worked out then as Sonalie said can forgive,forget and move on.No use of cribbing about the past,b'coz wonderfull world is waiting for us.

rajpriya,
i am happy for you as you sound positive and ready to fly with beautiful bird in air than a reluctant one in bush
( one bird and hand and two in bush is old saying)

enjoy girl, work hard and have a meaning in your life beyond marriage...


as for reader who are having a happy marriage, please igonre our advice and be happy in your nest...this advice was only for people in unhappy relationships...