Disturbed after seeing inlaws

What I noticed is u still calling ur ex as ur husband....he is not your husband any more....it's been just one year so wound are still raw....give yourself some time....meditate, listen spiritual music, read some positive writing daily....stop discussing about ur ex with anybody... even online....more u talk about him more you will think about him and more you will feel bad...then more you will talk about him,...it's a cycle, break it...
No point in thinking over that what would have been better, living alone or living with ex???
Now there is only one way in front of you walk on that...try to make it better...

Bring yourself to the point where it doesn't matter to you whether you ex is happy or sad....don't waste time in waiting for karma to strike....even if karma strike on them , you are not going to get anything out of that...try to develop complete indifference towards your ex...
Do what you like to do daily...pursue your hobbies and career....imagine and note down what you want in your life....how you want your life to be....note them down and work towards to achieve them....
You ex and ex in-laws don't exist anymore in your life....you are giving them unnecessary space in your mind....

 

Good morning

Saying anything about your past or analyzing it in your present state of mind is not going to help you any way. It seems, you still consider in hindsight, the marriage was not so bad, that it could not be saved. However, you need to accept the reality. I presume, you are in your mid-thirties or less . Still a very long life lying ahead of you. In such a condition, you need to arrange for a remarriage. You may not get a soul match but get yourself someone who has gone through such an experience. It is really tough for a woman to live alone.

There is proverb, think before you act, as it is useless to think after acting. No more mistake in life please.

Best wishes.

 

Who initiated the divorce? Is it you or your husband?

If it was you, I think you have made a wrong decision. I just assumed so while going through your thread.
You seem to feel defeated, lost and your wound is still row. In fact, instead of feeling escaped or survived from that mess your reactions seem as if you are not yet to move on.
It happens when we make haste decisions without consulting our own mind.

Yes, divorce is the best option when couples don't agree on anything with regards to their marriage. In laws interference, SIL's influence etc..etc.. are all red flags too. Just because everyone else say these reasons are all OK for divorce, doesn't mean whether you/the person in question is really ok for it. She/he may have few other reasons to stay in the marriage. Perhaps these good reasons may have been overlooked too.
So, it is important to make a thorough decision, specially when you are calm and in a right frame of mind to make a life time decision.

In fact, if you are happy about the divorce... I mean not happy in general, but happy about the fact that you are out of that terrible marriage...
And if you feel the freedom, mental relaxation, the essence of surviving/living after the divorce, it is indeed proves as a right decision.

However, if you feel lost, unhappy and the feel of going back to the old marriage, or any thought of jealousy over your spouse's affair etc... although it is human, it still shows that you were not ready for a divorce, and perhaps the decision is not right.

Coming out of a bad marriage is really great. But the degrees of bad marriage may vary person to person. For some ignoring H's financial assistance to his FOO is far better than living with a divorcee tag.
In fact, the society is more cruel than in laws' family in many instances.

Divorce is not a punishment we intend to give to the wronged partner. It is a freedom that we give it to ourselves when marriage becomes a hell.

If the purpose goes wrong, life becomes hell.

Having said this, if the divorce is initiated by your H; thus you had to give in... There is absolutely no choice. There is no point of looking back, because your husband has decided to move on without you. You were not in his life.
Better you too move on. Give some time for yourself to grieve. Accept some professional helps like counselling if you wish. Talk to your best buddies, family if that helps.
Being spiritual or meditation would help too.

Above all, occupy yourself with something else.. if possible with someone who values your emotions.

Best luck.. In fact my intention to write above all is for the people/girls who rush for separation even for simplest matters thinking "walking out of a bad marriage is something courageous". It is indeed courageous and much needed. But what is bad marriage varies, and that's where we must emphasize.