Want to know whether I was right

Its hard to convince oneself on something which really has impact on their life. you cant go into denial, acceptance is the first step in healing. Healing is a long every day process.. I pray god to help you in your healing process..

 

Dear Barupavi

You are out of Hell.. Don't suspect or punish yourself.. Freshen up and start moving ahead .. Wish you Good luck

 

dear OP, what you did is absolutely right , im surprised why are you even doubting ?
You saved yourself from years of abuse you would have to go through if you have compromised or adjusted with that man. He not only hit you , but also your family , what a monster !!!!

Feel relieved you are out of such abusive relation , now work on yourself,get a job or degree or learn something new. Be smart confident woman you were before marriage. Enjoy your freedom.

 

OP:
There is brain research now that is coming out in the news regarding how children and adults who are abused have changes to their brains due to the trauma. Of course some of this is can be from physical abuse, but the brain function can also affected by emotional or verbal abuse. I suspect that what you are going through now is the physical brain after effects of your traumatic experience. When you are feeling these times of self doubt, just remember that those feelings are being generated by the abuse. Work on having healthy environments that rewire your brain back to a more healthy state. You might want to do some online research about this or to talk to a mental health counsellor. Many women do not get themselves out quickly enough and you were wise enough to do that. Why he did it? There is something wrong with him and it had nothing to do with you.

Only one of many links that might be interesting to you:
Effects of Domestic Violence on WomenPTSD Trauma Treatment

 

@Barupavi, congratulations to come out of such marriage without being much involved emotionally. He and his family is mentally sick. Don't ever think you made mistakes. Some fight good to have happened. Bending fingers, physical abuse , emotional abuse, wrong complaints....ughhh.

Please move on. Stop talking about it.