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Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by SimpleStraight, Mar 19, 2015.

  1. SimpleStraight

    SimpleStraight Silver IL'ite

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    Moderators – Please move it appropriate category if it doesn’t belong here.

    Respected ILites.

    I am going to get divorce and my wife who is going to be ex sooner took stuff that I brought for her.

    The following are some of them.
    1. Bulova Watch
    2. First Iphone 5(lost) and Second Iphone 5 (I had to pay Contract breakage fee).
    3. Laptop

    a. Mangala Sutra
    b. Gold Bracelet
    c. 10 grams gold coin
    d. Silver bowls…

    Of course she took lot additional stuff that I brought for her.

    Now I think I want my stuff back. Sometimes I think God gives me, so let it go.

    But my Mother says let go, My Sister says it is your hard earned money and you have to get back. I did some odd jobs(very low pay) when I didn’t have a job.

    I am going to give her back whatever (even a hairpin) she brought from her home.

    Please pour in your suggestions or opinions whether I should ask to give my stuff back or should let go.

    P.S Note – No dowry taken, H1B Application for her ($3000), Air tickets, Outings, Travel, Food, and Doctor visits everything bored by me.

    Thanks,
     
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  2. heron

    heron Platinum IL'ite

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    She is not going to swim in riches if she takes those. As you are already counting favors,she must also have done favours to you all these days just as you did.

    I think you must depart with a little dignity here.
     
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  3. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Listen to your mom.
    When she was your wife...she must have done things for you too.How do you pay back for that?
    That is just petty.

    If you want to ask for jewelery that you gifted.....Hmm...may be.


    If you feel you could let go of the relationship and the stuff...it probably would be easier to deal with the aftermath of the divorce.Unless you feel you will forever be bitter about the lost money.
     
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    Rise Platinum IL'ite

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    Let it go.
     
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  5. SimpleStraight

    SimpleStraight Silver IL'ite

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    I too lost my virginity..Now in the Matrimonial market I am called Second hand and I too have a divorcee status...
     
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    nb25 Gold IL'ite

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    OP,

    The things you mentioned are not worth fighting about. Let it go. Don't complicate things.
     
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    poovai Platinum IL'ite

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    Hmmm, what a gentle man
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Is the divorce getting finalized and legal in the U.S. or in India? Follow the law of that land on how to distribute assets acquired or bought, and expenses incurred during the marriage? Will you be required to pay her any alimony?

    How about the wedding? Were the expenses shared by both sides?
     
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    SimpleStraight Silver IL'ite

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    @Heron - Thanks for your response. Can you please let me know what are the favors that I am counting in...
     
  10. SimpleStraight

    SimpleStraight Silver IL'ite

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    @Yellow Mango - I always appreciate your advices in IL and they are very practical too.

    Thanks for your response.

    Though ours was a short marriage and I was hit physically in US one day, I had blood bleeding, scratches on my forehead and she bited me through. I could have called cops but still didn't and I tolerated all those. Only God knows how I slept that night. I never raised my hand...I don't want to dig into past and get back those memories again.

    You said it is petty - I have taken a lot of debt for that in.

    Earning money is difficult and spending is easy.

    My Favorite quote is always -
    Money Lost Nothing is Lost,
    Health Lost Something is Lost,
    Character Lost Everything is Lost.

    The only thing that bites me she made false allegations on my Mother.
     

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