Ways to be extremely successful after separation / divorce - Dedicated to women :)

Ways to be extremely successful after separation / divorce

Dealing with divorce and separation can be a daunting and an energy sapping process but we can still convert this into one of the best phases of our lives provided we keep our thoughts and feelings in place. I come across so many women who loose in this emotional battle so poorly that they withdraw from the basic intention to live. I wonder what makes them choose failure over success when they have everything to bring forth the best life can ever offer. While rambling in an ocean of analysis I decided to pen down my feelings and thoughts to combat emotional misfortune that ultimately leads one to the path of being broke and disheartened. I hold this burning desire in my heart to empower every woman and make them so self-sufficient that they feel complete in themselves. This is not an impossible task as this can be attained with persistence, endeavor and that single little spark of acceptance that the world is your oyster and you can achieve everything you desire.


Stop blaming:

First and the foremost thing is to stop blaming others for all that has happened in your life. Since you have never walked on anybody else’s shoe, kindly stop presuming that you have been thrown towards all the terrible experiences in the world and everything negative is only targeted towards you. To let you know the bitter truth, your condition is far better than those who are beheaded alive, mutilated alive, strive extremely hard to put food into their mouth, people who have no roof above their head, people who live off of trash etc.. etc. Once this truth is established, life becomes simpler and meaningful. Everything in this world is relative and there is always someone who is suffering more than you. Kindly give this notion some time to nurture .Feel blessed for all that you own and work hard to maximize your efforts from all that you possess.


Self-analysis and Introspection:

The second attribute is to take all the time in the world to introspect in and out. There should be no room for excuses .Study yourself thoroughly. Have a keen eye on your weaknesses, positive qualities, areas where you are lacking and areas that require rigorous polish to shine through. Work on improving them day and night. Give your heart and soul into making yourself your best friend. You will be amazed at how beautifully your inner world would respond and synchronize to your tune and transcend you to the path of success without having you to perspire unnecessarily and inefficiently. Introspection of the self and realization to break free from the shackles of previous “you” can amplify all the positive prospects into your life.



Don’t be desperate to get into a relationship:

Many women show this crazy desperation to get into relationship because they feel lonely and condition themselves to the fact that only a man can complete them as they feel insecure and invaluable without the existence of a man in their life. Society also plays a major role in pushing women into making absurd and impractical decisions just on the basis of peer pressure. This should be avoided and dealt with intelligence and patience. Understand your need to get into a relationship. Is the desire emanating from a need to please the society or the self? To improve our status in the society or a genuine companionship which would help one blossom into a better person and experience life in a luminous light. These questions should be asked and studied upon with a scrutinizing eye because they help take proper decisions in life rather than random fantasies which come as a passing cloud.



Start setting goals and get going with it:

Set reasonable and achievable goals and work on it persistently, consistently and dedicatedly. Try and evaluate your qualities and work on improving them further. Keep on meeting new people, leaders, ace performers in respective fields and learn the requisite nity gritty of being an achiever and a successful person. Expand your horizon as far as relationship at a social level is concerned. Keep experimenting with yourself, set new challenges and strengthen yourself to meet the new challenges effectively.


Empower emotionally, mentally and spiritually:

Empowerment is a practice not just a thought .The concept of empowerment is germinated with a thought but a regular mental exercise of the same is an essential ingredient to make it a part of the lifestyle. Not to mention that the financial empowerment gives an edge to any person to stay independent but emotional independence and empowerment raises one to the pedestal of being invincible. Nothing in life can bog or pull one down if emotions don’t surface unrealistically and stay intact and undisturbed .Spiritual empowerment embellishes the whole experience to a new level and aligns the body, mind and soul in an order. The compositions of these advanced components create stronger and popular personalities.


Create a mysterious aura around you:

It’s easier to cry and gain sympathy from people around but extremely challenging to stay calm and composed in the worst of a given situation. Why not learn to challenge ourselves by staying calmer and composed? The more we learn to push our limits the more we discover our hidden capabilities. There is a strange fascination and enigma in staying mysterious about certain aspects of our life. Never share your personal life with everyone rather make it only a personal affair. Give the world a chance to play the guess game which it’s very good at. Mystery is attractive and always ignites curiosity in the seeker.


Personality development:

Building the right personality plays a major role in bringing your best self to the world. A strong personality attracts the world at large and achieving the set goals becomes a joy ride. Every person is bestowed with an incredible gift to enhance the personality. Simple factors like practicing honesty, keeping our words, speaking good, building good relationships, quick decision making, not carrying any chip on the shoulder, physical fitness, positive thinking and a smiling face makes a very appealing and a likeable personality. So why not invest time in creating the incredible rather than being down at the mouth?


Self-Belief:

This is an indescribably amazing tool to fight every evil that crawls upfront without any shame. Have such a strong belief in yourself that nothing can harm you, not even the slightest whispering of negativity. Armoring oneself with a powerful self-belief can help one win laurels. The world stands at the feet if the belief in the self is improved and advanced in a right way. Keep believing in yourself more than anything else and walk towards the wonderful path of happiness and success forever.


These simple tactics when practiced are sure to shower unimaginable success into your life. Never make divorce/ separation the biggest life crisis rather learn from it and make the best use of this experience.

I hope women understand their worth and value themselves always.

Let success and happiness always be yours.

With lots and lots of love,
Maddy