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Can I trust this relationship???

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by sheebros, Jan 6, 2015.

  1. ivlakshmi

    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    If he is working and earning less than you, if you are satisfied and can manage with low pay then go ahead with the match. If he is not working then you seriously need to rethink about marriage at this point of time.
     
  2. SGBV

    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Do not hurry for the marriage now.

    Discuss your concerns with him openly.

    If you are also working, see whether both could manage reasonable life together

    Love and affection are more important in a marriage, but money comes as important when trying times come. So, be prepared for it.

    See how he is otherwise. If he has the willingness to work hard, earn and has the passion to lead a successful life then you can trust him and go ahead. If he is all about love and affection that he has no plans about his marriage, then take a step back to analyze this further.

    I know of someone who is really a cinematic person. Who cares, shares and an ideal husband for many girls who dream of such a loving and respectful guy. But he does not work or does not show any interest to work. No plans for success or any improvement. Perhaps he is waiting for that one song from his life cinema to see the heights of his life. That would never happen in real life.

    Recently, I am hearing that he is looking for divorced or separated girls of middle age (more than his age). Reason being, such girls have less prospective grooms available in the marriage market, so he can easily get them or get treated as respectful groom just because he married to them, and not for his personality or job.

    Such men who does not believe in their personality would also fall or pretend to fall in love with such needy girls such as divorcees or older women who are desperate to get married soon. beware.

    Not to suspect all the genuine lovers, but to warn OP with a real life story.
     
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  3. Radhai

    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    OP. kindly bear with the digression for a minute..
    S is back to rel. That is a nice New Year Gift to the forum. Glad to see you.:-D
     
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  4. Radhai

    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    OP, Talk it out with him. Being caring and affectionate can be genuine or seasonal. Trust your instincts.
     
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